Being friends after being rejected?

[Anonymous]

I confessed to my guy friend that I had feelings for him. I only risked it because I really thought he felt the same way (everyone around us was convinced he did as well and he showed all the signs). Anyways he said he only sees me as a friend so I said I wanted to take some space but would be happy to continue to be friends. After taking my space (about a month), I reached out and let him know that I was ready to continue our friendship but he has not responded in over a week. Should I have done something differently or does he just need some more time? Or is the friendship over?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh sis that's so awkward, I've been there before! Some thoughts:

- A month was good space so you processed your feels, but he may still be weirded out things changed

- Guys can be emotionally dense, he prob didn't realize continuing as just friends would be hard

- Give him some more time to reply, could be he's figuring it all out too

- When/if he does, keep it light - don't force convos about feelings, talk about other stuff

- You may need more distance at first too, ease back into just hanging as pals

- Respect if he feels it's better to cut off contact completely though, as much as it sucks

- Just focus on you for now - hobbies, other friends. Can't force these things

With time and space it may heal or it may fizzle, but you did all you could. Try not to stress - his loss if he can't be friends with such a catch!

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t know. But I think that’s terrible that he reacted that way. He should be happy to continue being your friend.

[spartan55]

Sounds like he's done with your drama.

[VIVANT]

What drama? She was direct. He flaked.

[SweetJoyGirl]

The friendship is over. I am sorry, hun. 💜