I wasted my heart on my crush. How do I move in and stop the bleeding?

[Impressiveskanm]

I need to stop my heart from thinking of him. He’s not who I thought he was. Who I assumed he was. He is a quiet man. I assumed he’s shy. I assumed he’s nice. But he talks to people. I just never see it. And he doesn’t talk to me.

so fuck him. All I’m good for is Jim’s rating at my chest when he wants to and glancing at it. He’s so disgusting.

im deep. He’s a shallow piece of garbage.

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All I’m good for is him staring at my chest *

[ThinkerShell]

You know whats bad? You talk with people about it doesn't matter here or elsewhere. Finally you find someone good for deeper talks. S/he tries and tries to help. But all of a sudden by a move from your crush you forget everything and get back to the frist place and whatever s/he tries it won't work!

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm afraid the only way is to release your anger until you don't feel it anymore, good luck !

[Impressiveskanm]

Thanks. How?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

If the usual ways you use to release pressure are not enough then consider some other ways, honestly I bought a punching ball back then, a good investment, plus exercising can't be bad :)

[Impressiveskanm]

Cool. Do you have outlets now?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

As of now? Tbh, it's been years I didn't feel anger to the point of having to vent it hard

[Impressiveskanm]

Wow did you stop making big mistakes and that’s why? Assuming you did before. Or maybe you just stopped running into people or situations that cause severe anger? That’s cool either way

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

That's a very good question ummm it's hard for me to answer this one... The point where I found so much anger in my life was due to a huge and long-term mistake. So, in a way, I had a lot to vent, proportionally I think? After this chapter, I have been someone else in a way, perhaps it's protecting me more? I have no certainties really

[Impressiveskanm]

Good job! Stay safe out there. I relate to the mistakes thing. I guess we pay for them

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

There is certainly a lot to learn in any relationship. Considering how much we talk about this topic on this planet, navigating this area is not far from rocket science at this point lol

[Fireguy17]

that sucks.
I hate to say the obvious, but take it 1 day at a time, it will slowly get better.
Cut the cord as well as any and all communications helps as well and move on.

[LiamJHayden]

You move on by repeating to yourself what you said, " He’s a shallow piece of garbage." and then add "and not worth my attention." Then you realize that you are too good for someone like that and find someone worthy.

[spartan55]

Maybe if you talked to him more he would discover your delightful personality.