Why would a man friendzone you after sex?

[Anonymous]

So I had sex with someone I was attracted too we used to go way back 16 years ago… he came back into my life recently… we talked everyday for few weeks and it seemed he was somewhat interested in me and then we hooked up and then he started acting distant, super distant texting less and flirting less like as if he lost interest

and when i expressed my concerns and why he became distant he texted me this:

Good Morning

Sorry for being distant and stuff. But I really felt like what happened that day shouldn’t had happened. You’re a very nice person and nothing personal. But my mindset right now isn’t to do anything with anybody. My mind really is on making $$ and providing everything for my child but my friendship will 100% be available for you 🧡

[Anonymous]

For the same reason a woman on the flipside would exploit a man for emotional support. But then draw the line. It was a moment of weakness. It doesn't necessarily mean on some level he doesn't care about you. Anymore then a woman who would exploit a man for emotional support. It simply means in both situations they're drawing lines.

Now, this is why I said "it doesn't necessarily mean...". Because we're not inside his head. We cannot know how much he does or doesn't care about you. We cannot know if he just said that to leave the door open to f*** you again later. But he is saying you have his ear if you need it again. So take from that what you will.

[Asker]

I tried to get him to hook up with me again and he declined

[Asker]

He doesn’t seem to be attracted to me anymore

[Asker]

I've been bothering him all day asking him if there is something wrong with me and if so can he tell me and he keeps ignoring me

[ohsheeT]

He got what he wanted so he's good now.

And then basically it says and I can be there again to do it 100%. Whenever you want

But that's as far as it can go is basically what he's saying

Let me ask you this I bet you he was bad in bed too wasn't he and I bet you he was selfish because that's what his note says to you is that he is totally selfish got what he wanted.

[avery58]

I guess it was a moment of weakness and he wants to focus on his personal life, he's not looking for a relationship or friends with benefits right now

[ProbablyClueless]

Could be that after he had sex he realized that the relationship doesn't actually have the spice he is looking for.

A lot of connections are like that... You don't go in with any intentions to deceive or mislead anyone, the relationship just changes after the sex.

[MittParekh15]

Humm, just let him alone, he is going through something in life and he also has a kid

He seems to be back on life path , like I am already married and i have a kid, need to be honest with my family

If I cross my line I might have an adverse impract on my family, so just to avaoid feelings for you he is distancing himeself

[ManInChains]

Hit it and quit it if the name of the game for many men out there who are still fucking around with women.

[Asker]

I tried to have more hookups with him but he declined!! I thought men love sex

[Asker]

Maybe I’m just terrible at f***in in my defense I’m still a bit inexperienced he was my 2bf body ever

[Asker]

2nd*

[ManInChains]

I’m a man and I loathe sex. I’d rather just masterbate alone in my apartment.

[DerekC321]

Guys love sex but are afraid to commit, make themselves vulnerable

[BoopBoopBeep]

Maybe you're just not sexually compatible with each other.

[StevenMcGarrett]

Very bizarre. Maybe he is gay or is dating someone else. Or maybe he doesn't think your pretty and doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

[Asker]

I feel like he lost attraction towards me after maybe he thinks I’m ugly

[StevenMcGarrett]

I'm sorry. Maybe ask him what kind of look he likes in a girl? And if that matches what you are. It would be a tough conversation but at least you might get the truth.

[nawtee_me]

All he wanted was sex and you gave him that, so now you are getting clingy saying he has become distant.

[jahaims]

That's what happens when you let someone pump and dump

[Jmmmfi4]

HE JUST WANTED ASS... IM SURE YOU KNOW THIS

[spartan55]

Translation: the sex was mid at best.

[Asker]

In my defense he was my 2nd body ever … I had no real sexual experience my 1st only put the tip in once and we never did it again…. And he the 2nd guy knew I was inexperienced in sex so he shouldn’t be so judgmental if it sucked

[spartan55]

Unfortunately that's pretty common. I don't get why he say he is more interested in making money than sex. That's really weird... unless the sex wasn't worth it.

[Asker]

So I’ve been bothering him asking him what exactly is wrong with me to give me feedback on me so that I can improve myself as a woman cause i noticed that men always friendzone me and never want anything serious with me, and he never responds like i kept bothering him and blowing up his phone and he won’t answer me!! I asked him if he’s truly my friend he’d let me know what I should fix about myself so that I don’t have to go through these types of situations again… it’s crazy cause if I don’t give up
My body men leave me or friend zone me but when I do give my body like this instance, I get the same result… I don’t get what is wrong with me all these females get men to commit to them and no guy ever wants to commit to me

[Nikki1989]

They love to use women.

[Finchie40]

He probably cheated on someone for you

[noohair]

You were not that good.

[LiamJHayden]

He already got what he actually wanted.

[Jamie05rhs]

I keep warning you people but y'all never listen.