Can a guy friend zone you after having sex?

Question

I've known my best guy friend for 2 years and I have feelings for him. He is well aware of the feelings but he insists were just friends. We talk on the phone everyday and hang out almost as much. He says I mean a lot to him. A few months ago we decided to become best friends with benefits which lasted about 3 months until he told me he didn't want to hurt my feelings any longer. Despite this I wanted to keep being his friend because he really does mean a lot to me. Question is can I still be friendzoned after having sex? Were already best friends and have had sex many times, why is he reluctant to pursue a relationship? He's even willing to spend Christmas with me

Answer 1

Bluegrimoire

Xper 5

He likes being with you and he likes having sex. That's it. He said he didn't want to hurt your feelings because that is the truth. When someone he wants comes along, it's bye-bye for you. You are a friend and someone to help him with his sex urges, nothing more unfortunately. @Acleverusername is correct.

Regardless of what he did for you, he did that for a FRIEND, he is not interested in a relationship with you. But he thinks that he can get laid and you're willing so why not? But he's your friend and he knows he will be attracted to someone he really wants someday.

sanrio08

+1 y
Well to be fair he was the one who decided to end the sex because he didn't want to hurt me. At the same time he keeps pretty much acting the same in regards of making weird comments that makes me think he might be interested. Maybe he just likes the attention but doesn't feel like committing? His last girlfriend seems to have hurt him pretty bad even though he was the one who dumped her.
Bluegrimoire

+1 y
My point exactly. He didn't want to hurt you because deep inside he might be thinking that it is difficult for him to pursue a relationship with you. He is being fair with you because he would rather have you as a friend rather than have you just for the sex. This way, if someday he fell in love with somebody he'd still have you as a friend. It will be awkward trying to be faithful while having an friends with benefits , that'd be selfish and those involved are bound to get hurt in some way someday.

Of course he likes you, he wants you around because he considers you a friend. He enjoyed the sex but maybe he has realized that he might not want to be more than friends with you. At least not in the near future. His asking to end the sex is an effort to save whatever it is he thinks he have with you before the sex. I could be wrong of course.

Answer 2

sanrio08

Well to be fair he was the one who decided to end the sex because he didn't want to hurt me. At the same time he keeps pretty much acting the same in regards of making weird comments that makes me think he might be interested. Maybe he just likes the attention but doesn't feel like committing? His last girlfriend seems to have hurt him pretty bad even though he was the one who dumped her.

Answer 3

Bluegrimoire

My point exactly. He didn't want to hurt you because deep inside he might be thinking that it is difficult for him to pursue a relationship with you. He is being fair with you because he would rather have you as a friend rather than have you just for the sex. This way, if someday he fell in love with somebody he'd still have you as a friend. It will be awkward trying to be faithful while having an friends with benefits , that'd be selfish and those involved are bound to get hurt in some way someday.

Of course he likes you, he wants you around because he considers you a friend. He enjoyed the sex but maybe he has realized that he might not want to be more than friends with you. At least not in the near future. His asking to end the sex is an effort to save whatever it is he thinks he have with you before the sex. I could be wrong of course.

Answer 4

Acleverusername | 74 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

Well I'm going to come off as an asshole but in all honestly I know guys that once you give it up to them they lost interest in the girl and seek other relationships. I know that sounds shitty and you wouldn't want to believe your friend would do that but that is kinda what it seems like to me.

sanrio08

+1 y
Hmmm I can see your point. But if he cares so much for me that he doesn't want to ruin what we have? Why did he let it go so far? Especially knowing I had feelings for him prior to getting intimate. He's also not the type of guy to sleep with just anyone so it leaves me so confused.

Answer 5

sanrio08

Hmmm I can see your point. But if he cares so much for me that he doesn't want to ruin what we have? Why did he let it go so far? Especially knowing I had feelings for him prior to getting intimate. He's also not the type of guy to sleep with just anyone so it leaves me so confused.

Answer 6

Error_204

Guru

He isn't attracted to you in the least.

Can a guy friend zone you after having sex?

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