Guys did you have a good father figure growing up. Do you have a good relationship with your Father?

[Anonymous]

Do you think it affected you and made you the man you are today?

[ohsheeT]

Well to be honest with you I have two thoughts about this I had a step dad from 2 to 10 years old he was a good dad except for from 5to 10 he used to beat me with a belt and I never understood why

I think that must have been the way that he was raised but before my parents before they got a divorce the very last time did he hit me with a belt I would not cry I mean I had tears coming down my face but I told him that I would never cry again from him hitting me because it was wrong
And when I was five my cousin told me that he was not my real dad so I had to go and ask and they told me the truth so from 5 years old too I think about 29 every guy that I would see walking on the streets or whatever I'd always wonder if that was my dad
So in doing that I got to read people pretty well and to this day I mean I can read people very well
When I met my real dad and then a couple times after that I didn't really wonder who I was anymore

And not in a bad way I knew who I didn't want to be we're just two different people even though we were so much alike in so many different ways

But through both of them I don't think I would want anything to change I left my house when I was 16 and a half and I had to learn a lot of things very quickly
And I basically started my life all over again at 16 and a half because of the things that I didn't know but I don't think I would change one thing
Because who I became and who I am today the person that really likes himself in a person that does good for people and I can see and feel things deeper than most people I've been pretty blessed
Because if I wanted something I had to buy it on my own I couldn't buy new I had to buy used so if it broke I had to fix it
And that's how I've been all my life I can build and I can fix anything so I can use every hand tool I can invent I can do all kinds of things when it comes to love and passion I am very good because what I've been through I had children that are the best things in my life and they were raised complete opposite of me I did not yell I didn't have to hit I didn't have to do anything except for say
Ppssst and with my first finger motion come here I would explain to them what they were doing wrong and the reasons why and I would say okay do you understand they would say yes and I'd say okay go have fun think before you do

Like I said all I have to do is look at somebody in their eyes and they tell me everything about them selves

And that is a beautiful thing because I know who they are on the inside before I know who they are because of what they look like
So I guess with all the above says is that I like myself and I tried to be myself my real self at all times. And one of the best things is is I don't hold any grudges or any disrespect for either one of them because they only knew what they knew they only knew what they were brought up to be

That was one of the other good things is in my life if I didn't like something I changed it you don't have to be a follower you don't have to act or be like your parents you have to find yourself and be yourself your real true self who you're meant to be in this life I would rather lead than follow..
And that goes for anything I do
And just because I think something or feel something doesn't mean that I'm right
It just means in that moment of time that's what it is because there's always a moment right after that moment that has clarity
I'm not who I truly want to be all the way but I'm very happy with myself because I keep growing each and every day

[joehypo1]

Well my dad was not around and my mom married a monster and the things that i had to go through taught me a lot , knowing how it affected me allowed me to be better than that and i raised my daughter and she is a grown women now and she has her shit together and priorities straight and that's all that matters to me , i do not speak to my dad and the monster and i went back and fourth for a long time to his several attempt to kill me i won't stoop to that level karma will get him she always does so i need not to worry anymore

[Alex-Snow]

My dad left us when I was 4 so I have no memory of him. My older sister and my mom are great and I have them to thank on how I have turned out I'm 19.

[DerekC321]

I was really close to my father, I miss him.