Can a women hater change his mindset?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever felt like you met a certain person for a reason? To help them in some way?

I met a man that hates women...

We've never dated and never met in person. We only talk online. This man believes women are literal sex/beauty objects. He believes women are meant to be seen but not heard. They're meant to submit to men. He has nothing positive to say about women, EVER!

I can't stop obsessively thinking about this man and I know part of it has to do with a possible trauma bond I may have developed over the years. I have tried to help him but unfortunately the more I talk to him, the more bitter I become towards all men. Thinking they're just like this man.

Can he be fixed? Why can't I stop thinking about him? How do I get him out my mind?

[Finchie40]

No you can’t fix him , he needs to go to a psychiatrist to get some professional help , he more than likely has buried resentments that traumatized him earlier in his lifetime , it could of stemmed down to when he was a child as well , I knew a few guys’ that are like this to find out their mothers’ abandoned them at a young age , making them pretty much hate all women for that reason and having a hard time trusting them. Usually a guy that has been cheated on by a girl he loved and cared about , can make him that way as well. So the best thing for him to do , is to go seek therapy or to focus on himself until he is able to give again. You can’t force him to go to therapy , but you can suggest he goes , and for your sake , you are probably best to no longer talk to him , because his negativity is impacting you as well , if you keep allowing him to fill your head up with nonsense. Making you think that all men are this way. Why it’s not good to stay with negative people , try to surround yourself with positive people that think like you do. When a girl breaks my heart or cheats on me or betrays me , I use to become negative as well , and assume all girls’ are that way , because I am hurt and angry that she did that to me , and I feel betrayed that the trust and respect that we once shared is broken. . My whole outlook on love and relationships pretty much went out the window and then I would distance myself from all other girls’ thinking they are all the same , I would still hook up with girls’ but I wasn’t capable of giving them my heart. Because I felt like all girls’ were the same. Until I finally snapped out of the funk that I was in and realized I was being a selfish asshole , realizing not every girl is the same. When I finally met a girl that treated me like Gold , that was loving and respectful to me , and made me feel wanted and valued and appreciated that made me feel like she only had eyes for me. At that moment, I realized there are actually better people in this world but unfortunately for me I experienced some bad ones. But this one girl , helped me get over that funk I was in. So one thing I learned in life , is that people can change , they just have to work on it and seek counseling if need be. I went to counseling for myself thinking it was going to be a waste of time and money , to realize it actually helped me see things differently instead of burying those hurt feelings deep inside me and allowing them to control my life. Once I was able to set those negative feelings free from myself , I started seeing positive things again in my life and was able to give to a girl the same way I wanted to receive from a girl again. So if someone is constantly bringing negativity into your life , you are best to walk the other way

[Berethor]

There is a trope that is called bigot with a crush, you can look for it at google. :)

[Asker]

So I'm a bigot because I said he hates women?

[Berethor]

No, he bigot if he hates all women, though if he hate only some women he don't.

[Asker]

Oh, okay. Thank you. I'll check it out 🙂

[Berethor]

Good to hear, it would be nice if you tell me what you think about the trope. :)

[smashleyy]

anyone has the ability to change but does that mean everyone does? Nope. Some people are content staying in the same place. Changing takes time, self awareness, facing uncomfortable emotions, and revisiting painful memories. Something a lot of folks don’t want to spend their time doing. You can’t change someone they have to want to change on their own. I think trying to fix someone else is a projection of something you’re ignoring about yourself that needs attention. I myself have had a habit of getting fixated on “broken” men and I’ve learned that viewing potential partners as self improvement projects usually stems from having to parent and parent in childhood

[Nikki1989]

If they are open-minded enough to accept, gender equality and feminism, it can help to challenge harmful stereotypes and biases.

[Anonymous]

Why would you experience with this one man make you bitter toward all men? That literally makes zero sense.

[Asker]

He made me believe that all men are superficial and aren't capable of love.

[Opinion Owner]

Huh? How did the actions of one man make you believe all men are superficial and aren't capable of love? And again, how did he TAKE ADVANTAGE of you?

[Anonymous]

Troll reported.

[Asker]

I am a troll?