Guys, why do you refer to girls/ex gfs as "crazy" instead of abusive?

[Anonymous]

I noticed this is the standard, but don't understand why.

[NamerOfStars]

Because few people are willing to acknowledge that women even CAN be abusive, much less to the same level that abusive men are. It's known as the "women-are-wonderful" effect.

[exitseven]

she was abusive and I think a lot of guys would not admit that they were abused by a girl.

[Asker]

Tbh, my assumption when I posted this was what you wrote here. I think men think they'll be considered weak if they admit that a female abused him. So they cover it up by using insults about the girls.

[exitseven]

I would never hit a girl and I knew she was abused as a kid and she had issues.

[Brokenheartedx]

Nobody should be calling anyone crazy.. If a guy told me his ex was crazy, I'd ask him- what did you do to make her crazy? It's just a get out clause to sum someone up without context.. Just say relationship didn't work out and leave it at that.

To me a crazy person is boiling a cat alive, hitting you, stealing from you, lying or taking a knife to your clothing.. Unless your ex has went to extremes as above then you can justify the ex as craxy

[Asker]

Right and with the second paragraph, why not just say abusive instead of crazy? That's what baffles me about it all.

[Brokenheartedx]

My ex would call me crazy to his new girlfriend what he wasn't telling his new girlfriend was he was secretly texting me to hook up and when I told him to leave me alone delete his part of the message so it make it look like I was stalking him. He's been stalking me for years online and calls me the crazy 1. Beware of anyone who gaslights. Always 2 sides of a story

[lorenzomichael]

I’m cool pretty much all the time so the women I’m with have to be cool too or just won’t work. I don’t reprove them. There’s nothing but ex-girlfriend I don’t think bad about one of them. They were all great. We just couldn’t come together on certain things. That doesn’t make them crazy bitches or fucking abusive women. I’m cool pretty much all the time so the women I fuck with have to be cool too or just won’t work.

[BlackRose97]

Almost no guys want to admit they were "weak" enough to be abused by a girl. Even when that's obviously the case.

[ProbablyClueless]

That's a good question... maybe it's just the accepted nomenclature of the day.

[Emmytexrex]

I have heard guys say that they trying to emphasize the abusive with crazy because crazy had more feelings to it

[zagor]

Because (usually) they're not abusive all the time (who would stay with someone like that) but are inconsistent and behave irrationally.

[spartan55]

Is one any better than the other?

[Alex-Snow]

I have never hear guys say that.

[Asker]

You've never heard a guy call a girl crazy? Or you just weren't aware if she was abusive?