Men do you care how many men women sleep with before you?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Not really. I expect women to be sexual and to have had previous boyfriends and maybe even experimented.

I never asked a girlfriend about her sexual history and none ever asked about mine.

All I care about is if I like her, she likes me, she is loyal and monogamous. Beyond that, I don't care about her past. We all have our own paths to arriving where we are.

Although I would avoid women who preferred one night stands and sex in bathrooms with strangers, or low self esteem skanks who fucked anyone who wanted them.
My girlfriends were picky and had high self esteem, but they had strong libidos and certainly were not virgins.

I met my (future) wife when I was 40 and she was 37. We had both lived full lives and certainly weren't virgins. We never discussed our sexual pasts.
We've been happily married now for over 28 years.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Yes and no.

If she was a Yellow Cab (@midnightmoon05 understands!) when she was young, and had some wild years, but then settled down and has been sexually active only in monogamous relationships for the past 20 years, then I am not concerned at all.

If she was a relatively chaste lady until she got divorced 10 years ago, and has racked up the numbers since then, I am much more concerned.

I had some will years in my 20's but got married when I was 32 and really settled down after meeting my future wife at age 30. I don't judge a potential partner more harshly than I would want to be judged, and I do not invoke any double standard about numbers.

An explanation of my general attitude:

Is Your Partner’s “Number” Relevant?

and the time OlderAndWiser dated a former prostitute:

A surprising chapter of OlderAndWiser's dating history!

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Some women care about this too. I don’t not really, but I would be a little freaked out if I knew my boyfriend had hooked up with like 50 girls before me (but I’d get over my prejudice if it seemed like he really liked me).

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Yes, there is such a thing called a male whore (ho).

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes, patterns of behavior. there's no way around emotional damage and that comes out in close relationship.  might mean more pain than necessary...

Miristheiss · Answer

For a temporay hook up... I didn't care... that much.

To fall in love and be a wife? HELL YEAH.

If you wanna be a wife, act like one and live your life in a way preparing for that. You do not live like a tramp and then poof... you are just wife material one day.

I am not paying for life when you gave it for free to 10 other guys.

Anonymous · Answer

people saying the "past is just the past" won't be saying that about a rehabilitated sex offender babysitting their kids

perhaps they're innocent or they're a victim of false accusations. either way, nobody will give a shit much less forgive or feel sorry for them

"the past is just the past"? yeah GTFOH with that bullshit

uncleBobbyb77 · Answer

Absolutely I do I want a woman who knows what she likes how to get it and how to please a man. I will take seasoned meat over fresh meat any day of the week. Virgin May taste best but it doesn't know what the hell it's doing. if I wanted things to be awkward in the bedroom I would date a new chick every night and invite her sister over to watch, you feel me?

adventurous-1 · Answer

Not really, I was not a virgin and I don't expect her to be either. Matter of fact I like a woman with experience that knows her way around the bedroom, less inhibited makes for a better lover and lots more fun. As long as she commits to being loyal to me, I'm fine with her past.

Bricealan · Answer

I hope not. For me, it makes no difference how many men she has slept with, Coach. Life is too damn short to think about that kind of thing.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I argued with a Christian on here who said he wanted his future wife to be a virgin, with a mind of a child i was like, so you want to fuck kids? that effectively ended the conversation.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Why ask us men that question? If you’re a man the answer is yes! You do give a fuck because the next girl that comes into your life you dam sure don’t want to find out every dick in the neighborhood fucked your new lady. But then again, maybe you don’t care for me fuck that I don’t wanna be with a whore.

Christian_Cartier · Answer

There is evidence that every person a woman sleeps with literally changes her DNA, and degrades the genetic quality of her potential offspring.

RobT312 · Answer

No was never a factor when I dated. Wasn’t too concerned about the past unless it was something outrageous or over the top …by a certain age everyone has a past

Makeushiver · Answer

If there is a line at the time no wind up spending too. much money on popcorn & juju he's until its my turn. That's a problem

AviatorTom · Answer

It depends on our ages. A person's so-called "body count" usually increases with age. You can't change the past. The present is more important.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Only a foolish man wouldn’t. It’s common knowledge that women who have slept around a lot will make lousy partners. Why anyone would even need that explained to them is beyond my understanding. I have seen some women on here claiming that’s insecurity. Ha! No, it’s called INTELLIGENCE.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have never asked nor been asked anywhere outside of this site.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, and I saw this post on Facebook. Hilarious!

Yes we care but not for the reason women think. And you can explain it to them but they wouldn't listen anyways. So let them do what they do and we'll do what we do. I mean clearly it's working for them anyhow.😆

nawtee_me · Answer

Not at all. I have a past so why shouldn’t they?

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. I don't have any issue with a woman having a sexual past as long as the sex was in committed relationships. But even if all of it was, if she's slept with a bunch of guys, it means she has a history of failed relationships, which is also a red flag.

msc545 · Answer

To the extent that it might be indicative of as personality disorder, I care a lot as it might predict some future problems.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I would only care in the sense that a woman who has slept with a lot of men almost always has some personal demons that she's working out.

I'm sure there are promiscuous women out there who are perfectly healthy. They're rare though.

tzdc21 · Answer

When it comes to a serious relationship, yes I do. I wanna make sure she hasn't been around the block and given herself freely to many guys beforehand. That spells doom in all caps if she does.

Wiredone · Answer

I don't care how many guys she was with in the past. As long as I'm the only one she is with when we are dating. The past is behind us. I care about the present and the future

Anpu23 · Answer

Not me, I simply figure we all have a history and as long as she's not a virgin all is good.

Anonymous · Answer

Generally I do. My girlfriend was a virgin and so was I when we had our first time together. But if we break up I might just say fuck it and sleep around with hoes because it will be hard to ever find a virgin again.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Ugh, body count question #1,982,659 and counting.

paledreams · Answer

I'd only have one long term girlfriend woman ♀️ and she'd say about me "he's my only boyfriend"

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Is there anything I can do to change it? It's ancient history.

animesenpai · Answer

Nope who cares i just always assume I am not her first or her last and I won't be the best or worst have fun and yolo.

KlinkyCoder · Answer

If I was in an actual relationship with her. If it was only for sex, it would be different.

Ironco · Answer

I could care less...  Her past is her past

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No, but I care how many men they have sex with. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Dongie · Answer

It depends. I knew this one who's count was over 200. But you'd never know it from the way she was now. The way she abstained now anyway.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Yes. I want a girl with emotional intelligence and who doesn't need sexual validation to feel good about herself.

shades777 · Answer

As long as it's tight and she's disease free, I rather she know how to do all the naughty things I like them be a complete newbie,

WatchedPot · Answer

No. It's common knowledge your past shapes who you are today. Slice things off and the shape changes. Maybe they wouldn't be as courageous.

Anonymous · Answer

Beggars can't be choosers and men are the beggars, not women.

David6668 · Answer

Yes... It matters both sides are positive for me...

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. Sexual history matters. After a certain number it becomes gross and dangerous too.

exitseven · Answer

Yes once they hit dou le digits it is a red flag

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yep it's a personal preference of mine

ClassicDropout · Answer

Nope, don't care

LiaRaven · Answer

Some do care, some don’t

ubercharming · Answer

I'd care since I had never

Anonymous · Answer

No if they don't have STDs

Iron_Man · Answer

Of course I care

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

I hope not 🤣

Anonymous · Answer

No, as long as I like her.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Absolutely.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, don't want a slut.

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah. Similar to me or begone

Staximus · Answer

Yes I do

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

yup.

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

Yes, i do.

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