So... I'm lively, forward, and, often, flirtatious with random strangers. Having grown up with four rowdy and bawdy brothers -- with no sisters or mother to "civilize" us -- I'll totally hang sexual innuendoes on random conversations, just as a device to relieve boredom (and to see what kinds of faces I can get guys to make, lol).
I've always been that way, and, frankly, I've never given a fuck. It's fun. It adds a spring to my step and a little sunshine to my day.
I can also read people well enough to sense "sketch" and danger at a distance of 500 yards, so, the odds that I'll get myself into trouble are slim to none.
So what's my point?
My point is this:
What WOULD be "temptation" for other women -- women who've constantly been discouraged from random flirting and innuendoes and all that, and who've been taught to add a whole extra layer of "modesty" to their clothes AND their conduct when they're "taken" -- just isn't, for me.
It isn't temptation at all.
It's just fun.
Whenever I've been "taken" -- including my awesome 15+ year marriage, now -- I can still go flirt up a storm, and have FUN, and absolutely not be tempted to stray at all.
Because flirting has never been "forbidden fruit" in the first place.
And if there's any sexual tension, I can bring all that shit home and take it out on my man.
#fuckyeah ❤️
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Oh, and -- As for marriage "getting boring" after all those years...
That's YOUR fault.
Yep.
I said it.
If you put just a little bit of effort EVERY DAY into keeping yr marriage hot...
keeping each other on yr toes...
pushing each other *just* out of yr comfort zones, just enough to never stop growing together...
and last but not least, keeping YOURSELVES hot, physically fit, and DTF for each other...
... then married life will NEVER get old.
Oh fuck no it won't.
It will just get better -- and hotter -- and more intimate -- every day, and every month, and every year together.
Together.
For the rest of yr lives.
Take it from a girl who grew up with her widowed father's tears, always said "fuck marriage", and always side-eyed committed relationships in general.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2023031-is-marriage-really-worth-it-all
Read that ^^
That's what marriage is like, when you are not doing life all wrong. <3 <3
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I'm not married, but I do have a boyfriend. When I see other men I don't ignore their looks, if they are attractive, they are attractive, but if I acted on that then I would lose my guy who is way more than looks. I don't even do the "look, don't touch" cause I sure as hell wouldn't like it if my guy was doing that. No no.
By the way, the sex is boring? Have you told your man this?
29/25 age minus 15 years.
Girl. You married young.
You don't even seem happily married asking a question like this.
Once I get married I wanna be so obsessed with my husband that I literally would make porn with him and watch him like he's my favorite porn star. I don't know what goes on in the minds of others but I couldn't look in his face and be fucking another. Disgusting... get you a man who can hit it right. Problem solved.
I'm in a similar boat, not quite as extreme as you, but I've found ways to mix things up and keep things interesting. A lot of married women (close female friends) have also confessed a similar thing to me.
I don't really "wonder" what it's like to have sex with all the beautiful girls around me all the time. I got that out of my system when I was younger. I slept with enough beautiful girls to no longer wonder what that's like. I know what it's like. However, beautiful girls do kind of stimulate me, wet an appetite.
Also if I stop and think about it, none of that would have ever been worth jeopardizing a marriage with the one woman I could get along with and be affectionate and intimate with above all the other trail of women I left behind before I found her.
That said, for me the main challenge is to just kick-start the mood for me to have sex with my wife. Once I'm there, it's great.
But sometimes the thing that does it for me is seeing pornography or something. I still have enough of a libido to at least have sex once a day. Tricky part is making sure I can trigger the mood (porno is guaranteed, lingerie is almost guaranteed, being away from her on a business trip for a week is guaranteed, having her lie next to me naked is almost guaranteed) at the same time my wife is in the mood.
Anyway, I think what you're going through is kind of normal. I would say "wondering" too much might be bad, and I'd also question your loyalty and devotion and affection and emotional bond with your husband if you're dwelling on this too much.
But a slight flutter here and when seeing someone else who is very attractive seems normal to me. Monogamy to me is like sticking on a diet plan for the rest of your life. It takes commitment and love and devotion and, above all else, sacrifice.
Divorce rates 50%, 80 to 90 percent of divorce are filed by the wife. Stop getting married. LTR for life, if you can slice it. We can even throw a party and do all the expensive superficial shit ( which lets be honest, that's what you want, admit it. Its about the ridiculously long walk and the obnoxiously bright white dress) If your five years in and she's pressuring you to marry, stand your ground, if she loves you she ain't going nowhere. I'm serious. As a man you have no chips left when your married. Your out of buy in power so to speak. Your only weapon of power as the traditional man in a relationship is your LOVE AND SUPPORT, and the fact you can take them away. When you get married, whoops there goes the SUPPORT, (that ring serves as a pension). Now its 4th quarter 2 minutes left, and your down, been down for a while (lets call that year 6 in a marriage, haven't had sex with her for like 4 months, haven't had a real conversation in... forever.) And all you have left in your pocket, as she's in the other room gameplanning with her other unhappily married women about her option$ (Remember that pension, think of that when she brings up counseling) . Now all you have is love in your arsenal, and lord forbid if she's been in love with someone before you... you're FUCKED. Fucked, fucked, fuckity fucked. Thank you and have a nice day lol.
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Perfectly normal to feel that way... especially if its just a physical thing and not an emotional thing...
Look, don't touch
..I know women married for three years already fantasizing and having wet dreams of other men. I think especially when your emotionally and sexually bored or no longer attracted the "want" for a new penis is a lot stronger. Seems like you guys need to redate eachother and make sex a lot more fun
How have you been married 15 years if you are 25-29? You must have married 10-14 in which case I have a whole new set of questions.
I read all comments of woman. they have mixed opinions n even those who denied don't seem to be to sure about it. so I have come to the conclusion that most of the married women fantasize other men n have wet dreams n have the desire to sleep with other men whom they r attracted to though most of them don't act on it because of lots of reasons, breakup, divorce, social, family, reputation, etc etc, but the bottom line is they do have the fantasy, wet dreams n the want to have sex with other men whom they r attracted to.
No i haven't thought about that and i will never think of sleeping with someone else even as a thought. If the sex gets too bored or something i better work on fixing it or get divorce so we can enjoy our life instead of fantasizing for the rest of my life..
I'm married, I look and touch hot hot guys, and we turn each other on like crazy. I won't cheat, but I would have three some. But guys I attract are super alphas and I think it's not okay with them to share me. as long as I'm getting satisfied and my baeb keeping me moaning, and trying new things with me I don't want to sleep with some one else, cause he knows how to make me go crazy.
All the time. But it's just fantasy, I'd never do it.
But why tho? If u marry someone, u want to be with them right? Am I wrong here?
If you're single, you might imagine it, but you'd never go through with it if they were taken.
Met a girl when taken, now she's single. Did she think about me then? I wrote a question on it, can u help me out?I'm definitely sure the urge is always there.
It's not a like a part of your brain shuts down after you put a ring on your finger.
They're minds still function normally, and that includes sexual attraction and urges.shame on the woman who thinks that. shame on ANY married person who thinks that.
"I know you probably have not cheated"
I lol'd
Yeah they do. That's why there's no point in getting into a relationship.I fully expect my future wife to have normal human desires and curiosities.
Yes I fantasize but can't take step. Perhaps for the reason that our sex life is still very energetic, innovative and we both do all the possible activities, including staying always nude at home since our marriage.
Kind of defeats the purpose of marriage or really any sane relationship don't you think?
50% of married American women cheat, so yeah. Which is why men should never get married.
No, I rarely ever notice men anymore honestly.
Guys just don't catch my attention.a woman whos married should not ever have to think that, she should already be married to the guy of her dreams in the first place.
No she should not
And if she desires something like that she can be a slut instead of wife...I think its totally a normal feeling. I wouldn't mind if my wife sleep with other man and have sex with him. İts so erotic. But of course under my control. I should know whats happening. Otherwise marriage will be bad.
From what I've heard, most people (men and women) do fantasize about different people.
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