Please help me? I’m so hurt and sad and alone due to my coworker and his confusing actions?

[Canttakeits]

I get that guys want to neg women and it really hurts me. I’m also confused.

I feel really sad and confused because a guy at work got close to me and was nice to me and then started putting my looks down and I ignored him at work and now weeks later he’s trying to interact but hasn’t apologized and I feel so alone and sad. I question why he would put me down and people online say he wants to get laid with me. As in, use my body and then dump me, is what I’m assuming they mean? Which the thought of a man wanting to do that to me is so hurtful to my heart and it makes it hurt more to think a man who I thought might like me (at least I did when he was so nice to me early on) would try to do that against me.

I feel so lost and confused.

[David5668]

Simple Answer: Your personal pride and self-worth have far more currency than this tosser. You’re allowed to feel hurt about the situation, but walk away and give yourself a lot some TLC from having the strength to work away from someone who clearly will never be a patch on you.

[Canttakeits]

Thank you for saying that. It can be a hard thing to grasp when I see that he gets on with everyone and is popular at work to whatever degree. Meanwhile I’m very quiet and shy. I guess he doesn’t treat everyone else the way he chose to treat me.

[brichardson1080]

who knows. stay away. he sounds lame and not worth the hassle.

[Canttakeits]

Thanks. You’re probably correct. I guess my feelings are betraying me

[brichardson1080]

been there. it happens to everyone. even though it does feel good to get attention from people, you have to discern the intent of their actions. do they genuinely like you for you, or do they want something from you (sex, money, attention, etc). protect yourself. it is very hard. i still struggle but i'm getting better.

[brichardson1080]

just know, that if a dude truly likes you, he wouldn't put you down unless you put him down. it sounds like to me his actions are not intended to benefit you. keep him at a distance. don't let guys use their words to manipulate you. make guys wait before you have sex with them. they need to show they are worthy. still show kindness. grace in a woman is by far the best trait a woman can have.

[HelpfulWoman]

you shat where you eat by entertaining thoughts like that at a coworker... and now want sympathy? fuck out of here troll

[Nikki1989]

Never get close to coworkers. Live and learn.

[Avicenna]

That’s messed up, but time heals

[Canttakeits]

Is it messed up? Everyone else seems to love him and of course at first he was nice to me so I liked him too but then he started putting me down worse and worse. But now I see everyone around loves him and is excited to see him and it makes me feel odd.