Why would he pressure me to drink more alcohol?

[Anonymous]

I know this seems like an obvious answer— to get me drunk and take advantage. However, we were out in a group of 5. One of the 5 was me, and another was my BOYFRIEND. The guy who was pressuring me/insisting I get another drink is originally my boyfriend’s friend, who has become my friend as well.

The second possible reason is that he just wanted someone to match with him on drinks. BUT, he only had one drink and was not getting anymore himself.

I found it unusual he would keep telling me to get more drinks when I couldn’t figure out any motive behind it. What do you think?

[Ms_KnowItAll]

It's possible he had nefarious intentions, but maybe he just wanted you to relax a bit and have fun.
It would be strange for him to intend to do anything with you while you are with your boyfriend.
Did your boyfriend seem concerned about it at all?

[Asker]

That’s what I thought— why would he be trying to get something out of it, when I’m there with my boyfriend. My boyfriend didn’t seem concerned, but he eventually told him I didn’t need more. The guy suggested it a few more times but eventually after I insisted I wasn’t having more he moved on. Later my boyfriend said “it was really weird” that his friend was doing that

[Nikki1989]

Some men enjoy the effects of alcohol on you, such as your increased vulnerability or decreased inhibitions. Red flag.

[spartan55]

Where is your boyfriend when ol boy is plying you with drinks? I would NEVER let that happen to my SO. You're over here wondering about his motivation? Why does that matter? Focus on what is truly important.

[Asker]

My boyfriend just told him “she’s fine with what she has” once and then didn’t bother after that. I insisted I was fine and didn’t get another drink ultimately. I guess my boyfriend could have done more but it was his friend doing this

[spartan55]

What do you mean 'it was his friend doing this'? Uh... I didn't think that was in question.
So, you don't think your boyfriend should protect you?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Did he want you to get drinks for everyone or just yourself?

[Asker]

Just for me. My boyfriend doesn’t drink at all, and nobody else was going to drink more

[ChicoFromThe305]

That is a bit weird, did you boyfriend notice?

[spartan55]

@ChicoFromThe305
He did, kinda, and didn't do shit. Probably why the guy was so brazen trying to get her drunk.

[Viking_Girl19]

Maybe he wanted to rape you

[Asker]

Possible, but I was there with my boyfriend so it would be hard for him to get the chance

[jahaims]

I'd stay away from him