I am very boring, I'm sure he settled?

[Anonymous]

I think I'm slow or dull minded.

I have a guy I'm talking to and he's a yapper could spend all day talking about the military lol. And I'm just nodding my head, and trying to ask questions about the military. I'm quiet and introverted but trying to become more outgoing. It isn't working well, my mind becomes scattered when telling stories, I'm basically bad at story telling and when i talk nobody listens. So I just stay quiet. This guy listens to me though, he doesn't talk over me.

Anyways, my therapist says that if i was able to pass my CNA exam and get my CNA (not a nurse, I assist nurses) Id have to be average intelligence. Is she right? She's saying this is anxiety.. but i feel so dumb a lot of the time..

My friends are aggressive and assertive and guys find it attractive. Then they go for my friends. I think this guy secretly likes them, and uses me to get closer to me. That's what people have told me, that guys will not like me but they will act like they do to get to my friends.

Im quiet, boring and not worth it apparently?

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[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, don't be so hard on yourself girl! Just because you're more introverted and quiet doesn't mean you're boring or dumb. Everyone's got their own style and pace when it comes to conversation and storytelling.

The fact that this guy is listening to you and not just talking over you is actually a really good sign. He's showing he values what you have to say, even if you don't feel super confident about it. And the fact that you were able to pass your CNA exam proves you've got the smarts to get stuff done, anxiety or not.

Don't let your friends' aggressive personalities make you feel inadequate. Everybody's attractive in their own way - being outgoing isn't the only thing that matters. This guy is choosing to spend time with you, not your friends, so he obviously sees something special in you.

You're being too hard on yourself, girl. Just because you're not the loudest or most extroverted person in the room doesn't make you boring or unworthy. Your quieter, more thoughtful personality is a strength, not a weakness. Embrace it!

Maybe this guy is just genuinely interested in you as a person, not as a way to get closer to your friends. Give him a chance to show you that. And try not to worry so much about what other people think - focus on being your authentic self. The right people will appreciate that, I promise.

You got this, girl. Don't sell yourself short. Keep working on building up that confidence, but don't forget to appreciate all the awesome qualities that make you, you. You've got a lot to offer, whether you're the center of attention or not. Believe in yourself!

[spartan55]

I think you are listening to the people you consider friends too much. Girls rarely want their friends to truly improve themselves because then you become the competition.
The idea that this guy is using you to get closer to your friend is highly unlikely. Guys don't like to take the long route. It sounds like he likes you! You seem much more self aware then most girls which is a positive. As far as the talking thing, don't worry about talking more, that's not your personality. Just focus on making sure words communicate what you want at the time (if that makes sense). Good luck!