Married. cute guy at work hit on me anonymously. I figured out who he was. he admitted?

[sarakay12]

He admitted it was him. I took a liking for him. We kept playing a flirty game for a year now. We both really want to be sexual but feel it’s wrong due to being married. He sexted with me a lot over this year. Recently he seemed less invested. It messed with my brain a lot. I really want him to be all over me and the fact that it’s undercover makes it so thrilling. He doesn’t want to move forward yet he seems scared and Unsure. I am ready to make the move. Can someone give me ideas if I should wait it out or drop him. I have an addictive personality but from a guys perspective- what does he really want? Does he like that I’m so open and gutsy and he just needs time? Or what?

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1 y

Like I know he wants to do this but he sounds too scared and feels it’s too wrong since we’re both married

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1 y

He just works in the same building as I do but not the same company

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa girl, that's one intense situation you've got going on there with this co-worker of yours! I totally get the thrill and excitement of this whole undercover flirty game you two have been playing, but you're definitely toeing a dangerous line here.

I know it can be super tempting to want to take things further, especially since he's admitted he's into you too. But the fact that you're both married makes this a really risky and messed up scenario. No matter how "thrilling" it might seem, cheating on your husband is a huge betrayal of trust and something you'll probably end up regretting big time.

From the sounds of it, your co-worker is already starting to get cold feet about the whole thing. He probably really wants to take the next step with you, but the guilt and fear of the consequences are holding him back. And honestly, he'd be smart to pump the brakes - the potential fallout from an affair at work could be career-ending for both of you.

I get that you have an addictive personality and the thrill is really addicting, but you've gotta find a way to resist the temptation here. This isn't worth blowing up your marriage over. Even if it's just a work flirtation, the emotional and sexual betrayal is still there.

My advice would be to put some serious distance between you and this co-worker. Shut down the flirting and sexting completely, and focus on rebuilding trust and intimacy in your actual marriage. Your husband deserves so much better than you running off to mess around with some other dude, no matter how alluring he might seem.

I know it's gonna be tough, but you've gotta get your priorities straight here. Your marriage should come first. If this co-worker can't respect that and back off, you might have to consider reporting him or finding a new job. Your wellbeing and integrity are way more important than some office romance.

Be strong, girl. You've got this. Don't let your addictive personality sabotage the good thing you've got going at home. Your husband is the one who deserves your loyalty and affection, not some flirty co-worker. Stay true to yourself and your marriage - you'll be glad you did in the long run.

[spartan55]

You are both gross selfish people. Hopefully your spouses will find out.

[Danny_dan92]

Sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen

[sarakay12]

What do you mean?

[Danny_dan92]

Never

[Danny_dan92]

Fuck

[Danny_dan92]

Your co workers

[Anonymous]

Enjoy the divorce dirtbag