A married guy confronted me that I was “flirting “ with this one guy he happened to pass us by one time?

[Anonymous]

Not sure why it matters bc first of I’m single so I’m not cheating and secondly why he care?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is pretty weird that a married dude would even care and confront you about flirting with someone else! Like is he for real? You're single, so you can talk to and flirt with whoever you want. Maybe he's just insecure or something in his own relationship.

I wouldn't even pay him any mind honestly. He's probably just jealous cuz he's not allowed to flirt anymore since he's married lol. But you didn't do anything wrong. Who does he think he is telling you what you can and can't do?

If he brings it up again I'd just be like "sorry I wasn't aware I needed your permission to talk to other guys since, you know, we aren't together or anything." Like stay polite but also make it clear his opinion on your love life doesn't mean squat. Dude needs to worry about his own marriage and leave you alone!

Unless there's something more going on between you two already? But from what you said it doesn't sound like it. He's just trying to start unnecessary drama where there is none. My advice would be don't give him the time of day moving forward. You're single, so keep doing you!

[Asker]

We supposedly just work friends/ acquaintances but a week earlier he told me go to different team maybe you will meet a guy there, than few days later he confronts that I’ve been flirting and mentioning that guys name to me like I don’t understand him what his intentions is… also not sure bc few weeks back before I came back to work I did tell him out loud that I see true colors or him and that we are not friends anymore etc and than that’s when she told me to go to different team and that I should find a guy there than after that few weeks later he said I was flirting like what does he want from me…. Than asking me to buy him food like bro

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, this guy is all kinds of confusing and kinda creepy too if you ask me. Telling you to go to a different team to find a guy, then accusing you of flirting, but also asking you to buy him food? I don't get his deal at all.

It definitely sounds like he's trying to mess with your head and get a reaction out of you. Like first he's "subtly" hinting you should date other people, then acting possessive and saying you were flirting with that one guy? Make up your mind, man. And the nerve of him asking you to buy him food after confronting you about dumb stuff. No way, you don't owe him anything.

I'd seriously stay way far away from this dude. He gives me bad vibes and it seems like he just likes the attention and drama. Don't fall for his games. You said it yourself, you're not even friends so you don't have to deal with his weird mixed signals and accusations. Focus on you and do your own thing without letting this clown live rent free in your head. Some guys are just drama llamas, you know?

[Asker]

Yeah, seems like he’s kind of trying to manipulate me or play some sort of game with me mind game like he be acting as if he wants me Ish and then he doesn’t which let me confirm this guy is married so I just don’t know if he not sure what he wants in his life and he’s playing that mind game with me, or he just wants to see see my reaction like you didn’t mention mine games what’s the what’s the point

[Asker]

See also I’m not sure if he got mad at me and was telling me to you know maybe I’ll meet another guy in team three but I did go off on him and said I can see your true colours and we’re not friends anymore that was another situation, but after he told me to go to team three I backed out and in my mind I was done yet. He still has made his way back and that my question is why why and that’s when he asked me to buy him food like you literally just tell me to go to team three now you’re asking me to buy you food like who do you think I am and why won’t he just leave me alone if that’s the way it sounded like that day. You know what I mean so confused

[Oliverlogan263]

Man this guy sounds so sketchy and annoying. Definitely trying to play mind games with you, probably cause he's got issues of his own he's not dealing with.

Obviously he's messed up caus he's married but still flirting around and messing with your head. Just wants attention from you but isn't gonna actually leave his wife. What a jerk.

And you're totally right, why does he care who you flirt with or talk to at work? He's got no right to get mad. He just wants the attention but not commit to anything real.

Honestly he's not even worth wasting your time thinking about. Easiest thing is avoid him as much as you can at work from now on. Don't buy him food or do any favors, that just gives him what he wants.

You said your piece that you're not friends, so believe that and stick to it. Let him play his games alone, don't get sucked back in. Keep your head up high and do you, he's just a loser trying to mess with you for his own amusement.

[Asker]

Right with the food part, the day before he was like hey can you get me zaxbys I forgot my wallet he was like download the app etc omg what a headache he is

[Asker]

Than I wasn’t feeling good at work he comes up and says hey is there anything I can do or help you With I replied it has nothing to do with you it’s something personal I’m dealing with he was like oh okay

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, this dude really has some nerve! Asking you to buy him food when he literally told you to go to a different team. That's so manipulative.

And then coming up to you at work like "is there anything I can help with?" Dude just wants attention from you any way he can get it. If he really cared, he wouldn't be playing all these mind games and sending mixed signals.

I'd honestly stop being nice to this guy at all. Make it clear you're not gonna be his little helper or errand runner. Next time he asks you for something, just be like "nah I'm good." Don't let him make you feel obligated after how he's been acting.

The whole thing sounds super annoying and draining honestly. I can see why you're so confused - guys an expert at keeping you off balance! Just try your best to limit interaction and don't let him give you the runaround anymore. You don't have to put up with that drama at work.

[Asker]

Thank you I know it’s really exhausting like I can’t even live my life outside of work normally anymore bc this a hole in my mind and not romantically on my mind but in annoying way, like why he said this to me or did this I’m just tired

[Oliverlogan263]

I feel you luv, nothing worse than some annoying coworker always on your mind messing with your mojo. Really saps your energy having to think about what they're up to next.

But don't let this jabroni drag you down! Easiest way to deal is just not give him any space in your brain at all. Don't waste another second trying to figure out his deals - clearly they don't make sense cuz he's just jerking you around for fun.

Next time he bugs you, literally just smile and keep walking. Pretend you didn't even hear him. Or if you gotta respond, just a quick "nah I'm good" and bail. Don't engage at all with his nonsense.

Meanwhile, go live your best life! Hang with your real friends, check out some hotties, play video games or whatever you're into. Don't let him rent space in your head for free. Couple weeks of ignoring him and I bet he disappears on his own. You got this boo!

[Wise4myage]

Tell him to mind his own damn business.

[Asker]

Should have told him