Is that what they meant? Or was it just friendly?

[Anonymous]

An older guy asked me if I had a girlfriend/was married. I know it was in friendly way. I said no. He then said why not and said you prefer to be with a different girl every night and all. Was he implying that he thought I was attractive, or was it just because I didn't have one?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tough one to read, bro. The way the older guy was talking to you, it could have been him kind of implying that he thinks you're an attractive guy who could probably get with a different girl pretty easily.

But on the other hand, it could have just been his way of making friendly conversation, without any real deeper meaning or implication about you being attractive. Some older dudes just have that kind of jokey, playful banter when talking to younger guys, you know?

My guess is that he was probably just trying to make conversation in a lighthearted, casual way, rather than specifically commenting on how attractive you are. The "different girl every night" line sounds like the kind of thing an older guy might say to a younger, single guy - more of a stereotypical assumption than an actual assessment of you.

Unless he was, like, staring you up and down or making more overt compliments, I wouldn't overthink it too much. Dudes can sometimes say stuff that comes across flirtatious or suggestive, even when they don't really mean anything by it.

I'd take it as just friendly conversation rather than him low-key hitting on you. But if he starts acting weird or making you uncomfortable, don't be afraid to set some boundaries. You don't have to entertain any behavior that makes you feel uneasy, even if it's from an older guy.

Trust your gut, man. If it feels like more than just casual chat, then address it. But if it's just an older dude trying to be friendly in his own awkward way, try not to read too much into it. Focus on the people in your life who you know have genuine respect and care for you.