Do guys really fall in love instantly while texting online?

Question

Stopped dating guys and online dating but it was so cringe.

Like half would suddenly get clingy just from a few texts. Saying I love you and talking about a future or moving to be with me.

The worst were the ones who said move to me I'll make you happy. You love me and I love you...

Like your not even potential date yet in Thier weird minds I'm their wife already.

Girls do this also but not nearly as much of a love bombing as the men do!

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure which gender does it more, I am inclined to agree it's probably men, but why do they act like that? I think it's cause they are so fucking desperate.

Just so desperate that not only do they throw themselves at any option that gives them a chance, but they go way over the top with the relationship commitment stuff.

Now that I've thought about this a little bit... oh yeah it's going to be men that are this desperate for sure. I've seen it. They'll practically beg you for a relationship, am I right? At least when a chick is like that she's demanding it out of some sort of entitlement issue. Not saying that's good but I've had chicks I've basically just met demanding I only talk to them and already try to line up commitments that I have no intention on keeping. Those chicks are crazy and would probably get mad at me talking to my sisters like some kind of skizzo. I don't care what gender is doing that shit... that's some red flag shit and I don't see it ending well. Like the dudes I've seen that let themselves get locked into set commitments like that right away... they always, I mean ALWAYS, get cheated on pretty damn fast. I mean she was already fucking that other guy before she even met him. It's like "bro, you're paying her rent and you don't even live there and don't even know where she is all day? Really bro?" Pretty sure it's just as much of a shit show for the chicks... like I bet you could tell me a story or two.

These desperate ass people remind me of squatters to be honest. They're people that are looking to take something by any means necessary. It's going to equal some problems.

Cormac995 · Accepted Answer

Depends on the guy and depends on the girl. In WW1 and WW2 there was a shocking number of one-night dates getting married the same day. Stranger still is that most of them actually ended up having great marriages and families too. I think what it comes down to is people feel love at different stages and time rates, but I think the times had something to do with it too.

Things were uncertain and no one knew how this would turn out so when these guys had a week before they were deployed and a lot of them would never come back, they wanted to live to the fullest they could with the time they had. I think that's one of the things that truly fosters genuine love. When your partner makes you feel alive it's normal to fall hard and fast at that point.

LiliTyaka · Accepted Answer

Yes thats so right, but it always depends on what they want from you.
Sad part is its not only young guys that days its even older guys to i met enough guys in the past who told me after some days of chatting and being in voice chat with me that they fall in love now the question is always what lays behind it.

A possibility would be that they want something sexual and i keep that so open cause it can be anything what is suggested sexual

A other possibility is there are desperate for love and i do know someone of my friends who is like that desperately looking for someone to fall in love with

And one of the last reasons could be that he realy is in love with me, the question would be what the real reason is and thats always the hard one to decide cause in the end i dont want to being the judge for if the feelings are right or wrong or if someone can't feel that so fast.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

I have had men say all kinds of romantic cringy things to me online. It makes me seriously laugh.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I had that happen a few times, I don't think they really love you? Once there was a really hot guy 100% my type looks wise and out of my league, (light tan skin, perfect white teeth, perfect face, 6 pack, glasses and dressed good) he was from Morocco after talking for 2 months he said he was going to jail for 3 months for not paying a guy. He started messaging me again after 3 months saying he missed and loved me. I was like as if.. he is too hot and has too many nice things to actually like me. Then there was a guy from Tunisia he was skinny and good looking, dressed like a fuckboy and even did the fuckboy lip bite which was really funny because we are in our 30s lol) He lived in a pretty area but he was a criminal doing illegal things lol. (He used to snap me all the time showing me him out parting with his friends, at sporting events and in cars with his friends, and walking around, he also told me he was a smuggler across borders lol). They were both real because I video chatted every few days for a few months until I got bored and just didn't see why they liked me. They both wanted me to go to where they lived, the second guy said he wanted to get married. I met the first guy on Instagram. The second guy was from a dating app. The second guy could have been legit but I don't know I wouldn't trust going to those countries especially when he is doing crimes lol. There have been others but none I really bothered to talk to besides these two.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I've never ever heard of this, which is strange since you're spotting a strong pattern, how did you filter guys to get those results and how did you manifest yourself also, to understand how this behavioural pattern has been produced... I'm really curious now !

Lynx122 · Answer

No it depends on the personal situation of the guy. The situation is pretty bleak with dating nowadays. The options a person has influences their perspective. In online dating. Men have a hard time nowadays. And when you're young you haven't really built up the foundation of who you are as much yet. Your self esteem has to come from somewhere it needs a foundation and as a young person it's harder to have that. Of course there are a few people who succeed early on in their life but those are the exceptions. I think these men you're talking about are probably young and inexperienced and they want to give and recieve love but they're not used to how brutal dating can be, or they're getting used to it.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Younger guys can't control their feelings and are usually impatient.

I don't fall easily for a girl through few texts. I don't trust anyone online so easily. After bad experiences in the past. But I'm more open to be chat buddy or friendship. That's all I can say about me.

Anonymous · Answer

It is the kind of thing where someone texts with someone and then they fill in the blanks with all of the stuff that they DON'T know, thinking that they really know the person when they don't. Either that or it is some sort of con game where they are trying to take advantage of the other person and have them give money or whatever.

Stevepro68 · Answer

Sounds like catfish or human trafficking. No sane guy does that. Just like when a supermodel looking online date wants me to come out to meet her and send money so she can come to me and be happy. Shaaaaaa right as IF !

ProbablyClueless · Answer

No. It's really not possible to.  Even in terms of my last situationship, we started by chatting online, but it wasn't until we met in person that I really got into her vibe.

slatyb · Answer

No, they don't. The guys who DM with strange women believe they are in love, but that's because they have no experience in a relationship.

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

They weren't clingy they were just using you for time and attention aka distraction until the woman they wanted is available. They knew you were desperate and insecure so you would be available

Mrtcn01 · Answer

Ahahah probably they are teenager or a freak 😅😂

Anonymous · Answer

They are telling you what they think you want to hear. Players. Saying the same things to five other woman at the same time.

Anonymous · Answer

Not unless he's retarded. No guy falls in love before he's met a woman, period point blank.

Lliam · Answer

They are either cat fishing or they are among the most clueless, desperate retards on the planet. Not to be taken seriously.

gemb00 · Answer

Men are incapable of falling in love. It’s all lust to them. Till they find a replacement and they will.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

"Instant love"? I know of instant soup, but not of instant love. No, we don't.

princeofromance · Answer

I would beware of falling in love with anybody over text messages. For instance, they could be catfishing you all together. Online is a world of deception and lies for scammers to get what they want.

Anonymous · Answer

It's possible. I may have fallen in love by just being around one girl a lot.

Anonymous · Answer

Their dicks fall in love fast because they want to get you sexting as soon as possible.

Silver158 · Answer

I had a woman talk about getting married after chatting for a day. We hadn't even met in person yet

linka_pat307 · Answer

Nope.. never did and I think it's tacky

Staximus · Answer

Those are just desperate idiots

Godihateyou · Answer

Sometimes. I doubt it though.

This_Boy_Here · Answer

It's hard for me to fall in love period, and pretty much impossible for me to do online lol

Bonnaroo · Answer

That’s a great question lol

lucass120 · Answer

not at all - thats weird

BarryLiverstone · Answer

That’s love bombing. Not attractive

Crazzyyworld · Answer

they just want sex

blackeagle007 · Answer

I dislike texting. Ughhh

backdoorman · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

They sound desperate.

TheStaleMarshmellow · Answer

Instantly? No

Jay-_- · Answer

Depends the guy.

In_Trance · Answer

Lol no

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