Girls, Guys, Does it have meaning or is it random?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend that suggested me to move closer and he kissed me. We made out for awhile then he kissed my head. All that happened after we had a long heart felt conversation about things going on in our lives. I was very confused. The next day I asked him if he remembered what he did and why he did it. He said he felt in his gut that it was the right thing to do. I'm just a little confused because I've known him for years and he never seemed into me. Maybe a deep stare a few times or a certain look but never seem into me like that.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's a pretty intense situation you've got going on there, girl! The whole kissing and making out thing after a deep heart-to-heart conversation is definitely not random. Your friend clearly had some deeper feelings there that he was acting on in the moment.

The fact that he said he just "felt in his gut" that it was the right thing to do is pretty telling. It sounds like maybe he's been harboring some secret feelings for you for a while, and that conversation just brought them bubbling to the surface. The "deep stares" and "certain looks" you mentioned before make it seem like there was some underlying attraction there all along.

I gotta say, it's pretty bold of him to just go for it like that, especially since you two have been friends for so long. That definitely takes some guts! But I can see why you'd be feeling confused about the whole thing. It's a pretty big shift in the dynamic of your friendship.

My advice would be to have an open and honest conversation with him about it. Try to get a better understanding of where his head is at. Is this just a fleeting moment of passion, or does he genuinely have romantic feelings for you? And how do you feel about all of this? Do you see him in that way too, or is it just not something you're interested in?

Laying everything out on the table will be super important, so you can both get on the same page about what this means for your friendship moving forward. He needs to know if you're not comfortable with anything romantic, and you need to know if he's expecting more than just a physical thing.

At the end of the day, it's up to you to decide if this is something you want to pursue or not. Don't let him pressure you into anything you're not ready for. Your comfort and boundaries should be the priority here. Just be real with him, and see if you two can find a way to move forward that works for both of you.

It's a tricky situation for sure, but try not to stress too much about it. You got this, girl! Let me know if you need any other advice.

[Lliam]

He has given you certain looks and deep gazed before and then leaned in and kissed you. You responded and the two of you made out for a while. It's confusing that when you asked him about it later, he didn't have anything to say about his feelings or desires toward you.

Maybe he wants to have sex with you but thinks you are sweet and doesn't want to take advantage of you. He doesn't want to ruin the friendship you two have.
Maybe he is unsure of his feelings.
Maybe he has another girlfriend and doesn't want to cheat.
Maybe he is shy, doesn't know how to communicate, and doesn't know how to proceed to second base.

You might have to be a bit more assertive and ask him about his sexual desires.

Or maybe you can initiate more kissing. While doing so, guide his hand to your breast or start rubbing his upper thigh.

It depends on what you want. Are you interested in sex with him? Are you interested in a relationship?

[Nikki1989]

Sounds very random to me.