How do I deal with his lack of affection after half a year?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are both middle age. I’ve known him about a year but we didn’t start dating till about half a year ago. We’ve never had sex. Never done anything remotely sexual. He’s never even touched my breasts. I can count on one hand the number of times he has kissed me on the mouth, and not a kiss on the top of my head. And it’s been over two months since he last kissed me on the mouth

he’s not a virgin. Other people I’ve talked to thought maybe he was impotent, but I’ve felt it move. The weird thing is, we’ve spent the night together three times only since we started dating, and I offered to sleep in another room or on the couch, but he wants me to stay in the same bed with him, but he doesn’t want me to touch him. When I start rubbing my hand near his man area, he will move my hand away. And last night, when he stayed the night, he slept in thick jeans and didn’t even want to get in his pajamas. And again when I tried to touch him, he pushed me away.

I don’t understand why he’s so insistent that I share a bed with him when he acts like he’s repulsed by me. And whenever I question him about it, or question him as to why he no longer kisses me and why there’s little to no affection from him, he goes silent, or refuses to talk about it, or tells me he’s tired of arguing about it. But he insists everything is fine. I know for a fact that he is not cheating on me. Because he does not have a vehicle of his own, and he lives with a control freak overbearing mother who doesn’t even allow me onto the property, except to pick him up. so there’s no way he’s bringing another woman into his house to cheat on me

i’m confused and mentally exhausted and depressed, and I feel like a worthless piece of garbage

[Anonymous]

Forcing someone to have sex is called RAPE so dump him if you don’t want to be with him before you’re charged with a crime. Go to prison. As well as register as a RSO… Its scary when someone can’t respect another human beings sexual boundaries. You probably wouldn’t want someone doing that to you.

[Opinion Owner]

Like you sound like a SEXUAL PREDATOR

[slatyb]

Never had sex? WTFF? This generally happens after a few dates. Why are you still wasting time with him? He can be a friend but not a partner. Maybe he's in the closet?

[Asker]

That possibility crossed my mind too, but I know he’s had sex with women in the past. The last time I’m aware of him having sex with a woman was 12 years ago. That’s the last confirmed instance.

[glennos89]

Tell him that you need more affection from him without having to ask for it everytime.
If he knows what he is doing wrong he can make changes to fix it. If he doesn't change after you have had this conversation then I would move on

[IHateBeingaMan]

interesting couple