What do I do when my boyfriend lost a bit of interest in me (Long Distance for 11 months)?

[Anonymous]

hi, my boyfriend and i have been together for 11 months, but it was all long distance. he bought a ticket and visited me back in June, but now we are in college and of course we don’t talk as much, yet we had a long talk yesterday. he said that he is still interested in me, but not as much as before. what do i do to help things out between us?

[PrettyPriya]

Long distance relationships are notoriously hard to maintain because it it does get "old" or "boring". Although it is technically a relationship, I don't look at them as that. Without being able to see each other in person, that isn't much of a relationship and hence why they are so tough to keep.

My advice is the same for anyone who asks about how to make it better. I can only assume there is a chance in the future (near or far) that you will meet up and spend some time together.

My advice is to focus on that. It arguably is the most exciting thing you got going for you. Use that to keep conversation and excitement up.

You can talk about what you will do when you do meet up, what you will see, eat, etc. Plan and talk about all those little things to keep each other interested and invested. Plan all the details out and talk about each one of them.

Something as small as researching a good restaurant and looking at menus can keep you both focused, and it serves to hold interest. Now, if there is no end in sight to see each other, there is little you can do.

[Guy13]

I think he is basically stringing you along. And there is nothing that you can do outside of hurting now... or hurting overtime and probably eventually hating him as you discover more of the actual dynamic...

"still interested but not as much as before"... you are a secondary or tertiary priority... he has made some room for an interest he has at school by justifying a less interest in you...

You can not fix this. You can not push on him to receive you at University for a weekend. Sadly, to me, you have only one option when a guy says "I don't really love you anymore." I would be out now rather than later as I want to have good memories. This make sense?

[Avicenna]

Try to arrange a visit once a month. The prospect of a visit may help rekindle things. But long distance is very tough.

[boggboss]

No much u can do but try and bist or talk more

[jamartheg]

Sleep with his brother