Ended 3 years situationship? But I miss him a lot why can’t I let go?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy 3 years ago, I even lost my virginity to him. We were seeing each other on and off throughout the 3 years there were a lot of fights because i wanted more, he’d lie and say we were on the same page but his energy didn’t match. Recently I broke it off and changed my number he ended up reaching out to me via ig it’s been 2 months and I miss a lot I’m always thinking about him why is it so hard to let go and move on?

[HollyK21]

2 months has nothing in the 3 years invested, it’s going to take some real time to heal and get over him. This part is hard because you still have hope, love him and not quite ready to let go, but you know deep down it’s for the best. Stay strong, surround yourself with love and positivity, you’re going to get through this.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, 3 years is a long time to have something undefined like that. No wonder it's so hard to let go - you've got a ton of history and feels wrapped up in this guy.

Breakups are always rough, but not having any real commitment or closure after 3 years makes it extra messy. Part of you probably still has hope he'll come around and want something real eventually. But if he hasn't stepped up by now, chances are low that will change.

My advice would be to try and accept it's really over now. Lean on your boys for support and distractions. Hit the gym, play video games, anything to keep busy and think about something else. Don't dwell on his ig or memories - delete and remove all ways to stalk him online.

It'll take time, but eventually those reminders won't hurt as bad. You deserve way better than some dude playing games with your feelings for 3 years, bro. Stay strong and focus on yourself. You got this - in a few months he'll just be a faded memory.

[bededazzle]

that’s just how it goes for most of us. it’s a good time to take care of yourself. sounds like you listened to your heart so you did the right thing. why? it’s simple. you must have had some good times too :).

[Anonymous]

is this dude your first love? it is normal to get attached to someone who you had sex with for the first time. and for being in a relationship with for 3 years. it's a significant chapter of your life. and one you will remember forever (sorry)

2 months is not enough to heal from it. you need more time and that's okay. it'll hurt less and less eventually.