Why do some people talk as if they don’t take crap from people and don’t care, but their behaviour shows that they’re a pushover and a people pleaser?

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It’s like their words completely contradict their behaviour.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I have to agree with what @FunkyMonkee said. I have recently found out that it's not good to be a nice person because people will use you for whatever they can get from you and they'll push you to your limits.
I am a nice person because it's just in my nature to be nice and kind to people. Isn't there a saying that goes like this "Treat people the same way that you want to be treated"? Well, that's what I have always done but these days it seems like people like to take advantage of people such as myself and when they do... I let um have it right between their eyes. All of a sudden they are standing there in front of me and I give it to them as lf I am trying to win my case in court.
So these are the people who are kind and nice to you until YOU take advantage of them are then they bounce back and will get in your face and you won't be happy!

mstbooblover · Accepted Answer

Always keeping in mind that the truth is never black or white, out of experience I know how eager some people are to take advantage of a friendly person. I always avoided to shock or upset someone else, but while getting older I learned to just tell straight away what I have in mind in a particular situation, whatever other people may say or think.

Since ever I plainly hate useless fights for the sake of fights. There is still a way to tell the truth, which is without useless violence or hurting words. A little diplomacy can't hurt, can it?

I have the feeling that most people do not seem to take seriously someone who tries to be kind, friendly and conciliating, which is considered by idiots to be weakness. That's why I warn nearly always: if you ask a question, you may get an answer.

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

People pleasers are often very I secure and therefore they rather role with the safety of the crowd then stepping on peoples toes.

I find those type of people very annoying sometimes because they don't have a opinion of their own or they just don't dare to speak for themselves.

I'm totally the opposite of that. I really don't care who I'm talking to wether it's my boss, a president or a professional fighter...

When I don't like them or something they do bothers me I'm not hassitating to speak my mind against then. I really don't care if it pisses them off or not, I would never take crap from anyone period

MrCharlie13 · Answer

People's way of thinking and people's way of acting very frequently contradict each other. That's because humans perceive the way they act differently from the way people around them perceive it.

If we hate a certain conduct, our brain protects us by not letting us know we are repeating that conduct and we go through life thinking we are good when in reality we are acting the way we hate towards others.

Some are hypocrites and do this on purpose, but most people really don't realize this cognitive dissonance.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Maybe, because they're trying to be nice to people but they have limits and will only get pushed so far! Like me; I've been SUPER sweet, kind, loving and nice to my ex-girlfriend but, she keeps trying to push me around so, I GOTTA put my foot down, even if it means that I lose her!! She HAS to know she CAN'T push me around and I'm NOT her door mat!! Like the song says, "People will always be tempted to wipe their feet on anything with "Welcome" written on it!!" She's CERTAINLY welcome but, she'll HAVE to find SOMEONE ELSE to wipe her feet on!! I'M NOT HAVING IT!!! And it's just tough fucking shit if she doesn't like it!!!

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Humans are hypocrites. We all have hypocrisy in our beliefs if someone were to analyze everything you say your for or against. Somewhere you'd find conflict in I should probably say almost everyone.

HungTexan · Answer

They talk like they’d like to be, but don’t have the confidence to follow through.

princeofromance · Answer

That is so people can't see the real person they are. Otherwise, they fear and know people will take advantage of their kindness.

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