What does this behavior means?

[annahouz]

So I was talking to guy for about 4-5 months and we went on a date.. he was saying he is serious about me and have real feelings for me but then one of my female friends told me that he sent a follow request to her on IG so it made me doubt his intentions.
Also we have stopped talking but he still watches my IG stories and sometimes even reply to the stories.

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I did not confront him about the follow request just distanced myself.

[bobalife]

Sorry girly, everyones response to your comment was really insensitive to just focus on the fact it is about IG and not understanding that he pulled a stunt with trying to say he is serious about you yet requested follow your friend. People can say it is nothing because yalls are not with a title, but people are not getting that it is BS and red flag alert that someone can claimed "I am serious about you" yet trying with another girl through your own IG list.. like wth lol smh that's not cool... sheesh if the role switch where a girl told a guy she is serious about him and then try to follow request his homeboy, what in the world where a guy would be cool about that too? you do you with your peace of mind and what is right for you. It is very annoying, disappointing, and sad that he did that for sure. But it is better to walk away early before it get deeper where it becomes trauma. You did the right thing for sure!

[annahouz]

Thank you at least someone understands.. that’s exactly what I was thinking that If I claimed to be serious about him and then trying to follow his homies.. he would not be able to take it.
But thank you so much for understanding and actually providing an answer which ensured I was not overthinking or over reacting to a situation.
More love to you 😀

[bobalife]

You’re welcome, I’m glad it was helpful and reassuring! ☺️ tbh at the end of the day, it’s all about what makes you feel comfortable and establish trust… no one can determine that any better than yourself, so trust yourself :) !!! Nobody wants to go in a new relationship with anxiety, stress, or distrust right? This is your boundary and it’s okay to stick with it.

[SueShe]

One date seemed not be enough to achieve what he had in mind and you must have given him a hard time as obviously, he did not get what he wanted, even by trying to melt you with his fake speech.

Seeing that he would not be successful, he tried to find another victim by sending her a follow request. Again, it did not work out as per his intend and rather than to play his game, this friend told you about his hidden intentions.

He has stopped talking to you knowing that you found out his intentions but he is keeping you on the backburner, just in case you decide to change your mind about him and his intentions.

[annahouz]

Yeah I mean
Sending request toa girl in my following list seems very weird
Knowing she will be out mutual and could be my friend who will tell me everything.
Also his following list keeps going up and down.

[annahouz]

Also he doesn’t know.. i mean I did not confront him about this follow request but just distanced myself

[SueShe]

that is the best policy and not getting involved in drama is the only thing to do.

[LuminousMind]

@sueshe hi I just wanted to say I really like your advice and wanted to ask if you wouldn’t mind giving me your opinion on a situation? I’d appreciate it if you could follow me so I could send you a pm

[hahahmm]

A relationship doesn't just happen instantly. You only went on one date. He could be telling the truth AND it's also true that neither one of you is committed to the other. Him following somebody isn't a big deal.

Now if he was trying to get with her that would be something.

Strange how so many women expect a guy to focus 1000% on them before she's even put 2% energy into the relationship.

[annahouz]

Well that was my friend that he tried to follow and he doesn’t even know her!
He shouldn’t be finding and following girls in my list knowing that she could be someone I know.
Also he is very flaky like he flaked on dates and cancelled many times.

[hahahmm]

Maybe he followed her to try and get info about you. Personally I don't follow anybody at all but of course I'm not from your generation. As far as him flaking out: you should have dumped him the very first time he did that. That is a big red flag.

[Avicenna]

Did you actually ask him about the friend request? Maybe it’s because she’s your friend!

[annahouz]

No I did not confront him about this just distanced myself

[Avicenna]

That’s not going to solve this

[Nikki1989]

I was taking this seriously until I read the IG part. Time to act your age if that age is correct on here. I seriously hope it is not.

[annahouz]

What do you mean by that?

[In_Trance]

It means you fucked up

Stay off social media next time

[annahouz]

What does that even mean?

[In_Trance]

It means if you didn't look at his profile you'd never know the difference and everything would be fine right now

[MasterKS]

are you seriously 28?