Why does he not want me to move during sex?

[Anonymous]

Like he keeps telling me don't move! Whenever I try he's like you don't have to move don't move! Even when I'm on top... he still tells me you don't have to move! I told him many times that I should move as well, because we always have to take breaks, since he is exhausted.. but he just doesn't want me to. He's very stubborn when it comes to this. He doesn't want to give me a reason. Any ideas?

[Crazyced]

Not much info to go off of, but if we're interested in investigating this further then the 'He's a controlling asshole' low hanging fruit, there are other possibilities. Maybe your angles are all wrong and/or your rhythm is way off, which depending on the size of his equipment can cause easy slippage or bending (ouch). Reason he's not telling you? Most women are already self conscious enough when naked and on top, he may not be confident in his ability to tell you 'you suck at this' in words that won't hurt you even more.

[Dudesopinion8]

Totally agree bro. Nailed it

[ChicoFromThe305]

I've never had sex and even I know he's doing it wrong

[RavVid]

He doesn't seem to like they way you move. It's a bit like you back seat driving when you think about it. None of us like back seat drivers. Excuse my jocularity :).

I've been with one girl who was a vigorous mover and she kept on putting me out into the cold mostly because she chose to move on my back stroke. It took a long time to get into a rhythm we could sustain.

But it wasn't one I would naturally take. I certainly move in away that is suitable for me and I presume you move in a way that is good for you. It is quite possible your and his rhythm don't gel that well.

Do you like his rhythm or is it a bit off for you? I think we can have different kinesthetic sense. If that seems to be the problem then it is worth talking about.

I've noticed this in partner dancing. Whilst you both have the same beat, and there is a limited number of things you can do, some girls are easier to move with than others. Yet a girl I think is easy to dance with is thought difficult by other guys. For lack of other explanation I attribute this to kinesthetic sense. There is entrainment in movement and in sex that is vital to orgasm. So it is important.

It is something I would like to explore more than I have and would welcome your feedback. Most girls don't move that much.

[Dudesopinion8]

I totally am the same way as him.. I can't stand it when the woman moves around. In fact... in most adult movies you'll observe the female star ( unless performing oral or on top) just lays there and takes it and allows the man to totally dominate and enjoy. I find the woman pulling me into them off putting.. and unrealistic. In bigger.. in physically stronger.. I want to pin her down and go to town my way. I don't want her tiny frame trying to tug me around. I also can't stand when a woman lifts her hips up real high in missionary or goes to wild on top. They think it's hot but it's really just freaking us out and making us fear for our members which may get snapped with one wrong move.

I find women who do this are the same personality types who swear that scratching a man's back turns him on... well news flash- despite what you think the vast majority of men would prefer not to have someone scratching the eff out of them while they're trying to smash

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Lastly.. his " stamina" may be an issue or it may be that he's like me and likes to fluctuate from pounding to close slow intimacy and feeling the wetness all around him while he's deep inside. Nothing kills that like a tense woman struggling to "man handle" us in an effort to achieve their orgasm or to " be good" at sex.

( it's always one of those two reasons )

[NicholasRedone]

That sounds really weird and off putting.

I couldn't date a woman who told me not to move 😝

[NicholasRedone]

I feel for you lady 💗 hopefully things work out for you

[Ariesman81]

Weird. How does he enjoy the movie when he has to do all the work?

[NicholasRedone]

He sure sounds like a lot of work - borrowed that from a movie line. Some women can be just as bossy as much as some men are total drill sergeants 🤮

[jahaims]

Weird fetish or he is trying to wow you but has no idea what he is doing

[In_Trance]

Why do you keep railing him?

[Anonymous]

He wants total control over you.