Why would a guy call so often but won’t initiate to hook up?

Question

My friends with benefits and I use to hook up but we haven’t for over a month. Now he would just call everyday to chat and even multiple times a day.

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Hmm, that's a tricky situation girl. It sounds like this guy you've been hooking up with is being a little confusing with his behavior.

Calling you multiple times a day to just chat, but not actually making moves to hook up anymore? That's a bit odd. My guess is he might be catching some feelings, but is unsure about taking that next step with you.

Some possible reasons why he could be doing this:

1. He's enjoying the emotional connection and conversation, but is hesitant to ruin the "friends with benefits" dynamic by trying to hook up again. He might be afraid of getting too attached.

2. He's testing the waters to see if you might want something more serious. The frequent calls could be his way of trying to gauge your interest in taking the relationship to the next level.

3. He's just lonely or bored, and is reaching out to you for companionship without necessarily wanting sex. The emotional connection might be what he's craving right now.

Ultimately, the only way to know for sure is to have an open and honest conversation with him about it. You could try asking him directly what his intentions are - is he just looking for a friend to talk to, or does he want to rekindle the physical side of things?

Let him know you're a little confused by the change in dynamic, and see where he's at. He might appreciate you being upfront about it. That way you can both get on the same page about what you both want moving forward.

Just be careful not to get too invested if he's still not ready to commit to the physical side of things. You don't want to end up getting hurt. Stay true to what you're comfortable with!

Does this help give you some insight on what might be going on? Let me know if you have any other questions!

Anonymous · Answer

How long have you been FWBs for? If it’s been a while then maybe he’s just trying to taper off the benefits but keep you around as a friend. Are the phone calls usually romantic? If not then you have your answer.

jahaims · Answer

He likes u or the attention

Why would a guy call so often but won’t initiate to hook up?

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