Why would a guy who wants to talk and text all the time, then pulls away?

[Anonymous]

So I've been talking to this guy for 1 or 2 weeks. He keeps calling me, texting me, asking questions to get to know me better and he seems really excited about our communication. He was the one who wanted to meet me and was even a bit insistent at first. We even had breakfast together out and everything was just very nice. However, for the last two days he hasn't texted or called me. He responds to my messages hours later. I don't understand why he is doing this when there is literally nothing going on. Any advice or idea?

[Summeroflove]

Maybe he’s busy or maybe he’s losing interest or maybe he’s ran out of stuff to talk about.


I would reach directly out to him and ask him to be honest. If the truth is he’s losing interest. He needs to express that

[HawkPerception]

Social media has ruined personal interactions. Most people nowadays have a very low attention span and as soon as they find someone they like talking to more after continuously swiping options while talking to you, they will lose interest and give that person their focus. My advice... adapt to the times and don't be hurt when someone ghosts you. This kind of societal behaviour won't go away any time soon.

There is a second possibility and that is that something you mentioned in the chat deterred them from talking with you anymore.

[itsalyssaagain]

It could be for sooooooooo many reasons.


If I were you I’d give back the same energy and wait a few days. If it continues I will ask him why he’s acting different and if there’s anything I’ve done to cause it.


If it continues for a long period of time…peace out ✌️ we have no time for games.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I have time for games

[itsalyssaagain]

Lol no they’re really bad in the long run 😭 very emotionally damaging

[WanderingLoveWizard]

That's true lol, I like the drama though

[itsalyssaagain]

Haha well 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I like you

[itsalyssaagain]

@WanderingLoveWizard Loool well that's good to know

[WanderingLoveWizard]

😘😘

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Just kidding. You are cool though 👍

[Anonymous]

The only thing I can think of is he may have become busy with something important. At least that's what I hope. Maybe it's something he just can't talk about with you yet but give it some time and see if he comes around.

[SirJohn42]

Well texting is nice and fun.
Maybe he feels that he doesn't need to text you everyday.
Or he used all his good texts and just doesn't know what to say.
Sometines we guys get tired of texting. Or just maybe he is busy. Life happens. Phone calls and texting can get boring. Some people get burned out on doing it everyday. We need our breaks. doesn't mean we are not interested. Just we need to have space.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I won't text more than once or twice a day if we aren't meeting. If we're meeting possibly more to coordinate, but like SirJohn42 said. I'm a guy. I have things to do. I can't sit around and text all day. Ask him what's up. As ItsAllyssaAgain said, no time for games.

[Adam1978]

Well if you had breakfast in person he got his first impression and maybe you didn't really meet his expectations. So now you have been down graded in priority.

[sheikalana]

Hmmm seems like once he got what he wanted he doesn't feel as excited anymore. Or maybe there's something going on in his life.

[diego_md]

he might found another girl that he think she's better than you in his opinion

[Jamie05rhs]

Had you ever met him before you had breakfast with him?

[Anonymous]

I don't know. I don't waste my time with texters.

[LovelyJaneDoe]

He reached his goal and now he is bored

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just give him some space let him come to you

[Anonymous]

He got cold feet?