The guy I'm talking to likes goth girls, and I am def not?

[bruhidkwhatisgoingon]

I've been talking to this boy for about two months, and he always calls me pretty/compliments me. However, when I see that feature on ig that tells you what some one liked, he is ALWAYS liking a goth girls post/reel. It legit never fails. And obviously, I'd like it if he liked no girls posts at all but, omg it is ONLY GOTH GIRLS with ZERO variety. I'm also a black girl, and I DOUBT he's ever been with another black girl, and ik for a fact some of his ex's are alt girls and I'm just so confused on what we're doing here. Like does he even like me? Or am I being used?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, that's definitely a confusing situation you've got on your hands. The fact that he's constantly liking posts of goth girls, even though you're not really that aesthetic, is a little concerning.

I can see why you'd be feeling a bit insecure and unsure about where you stand with him. If he's constantly showing interest in a very specific "type" of girl online, but he's with you, it makes you wonder if he's really into you or if he's just settling.

The racial aspect is also something to think about. The fact that you know his exes were alt girls, and you're the only Black girl he's been with, raises some red flags. It could mean he's fetishizing a certain "look" or aesthetic, rather than genuinely being interested in you as an individual.

My advice would be to have an honest conversation with him about it. Ask him directly what he's looking for in a relationship, and whether he's truly interested in you or just drawn to a certain aesthetic. See if he can explain the discrepancy between his online behavior and how he treats you.

You deserve to be with someone who genuinely appreciates you for who you are, not just because you fit a certain mold. Don't be afraid to walk away if he can't give you the reassurance and commitment you need. Your self-worth is so important, girl.

Trust your gut on this one. If something feels off, don't ignore those instincts. Have that tough conversation, and don't be afraid to put yourself first. You got this!

[bowenw]

I suggest you keep talking with him and see where things go. If he likes you it should become obvious and he'll ask you out.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Y’all act like having a thing for a specific type means that’s the only thing they like. I like monsters, I enjoy monster art, does that mean I only want to date monsters? No, because I live in reality. It’s not that serious.

[Abbycado]

If he likes that and you’re not, what do you think?

[Kaneki05]

Any sane guy don't have to be with their exact type. That's not how liking someone works. If it does they are insane so bullet dodged.

[dustybiker2]

Ask him out already, learn that answer for yourself.