Why does my married coworker get jealous when I talk to guys?

[Anonymous]

Exactly that, he kind of acts weird when I talk to talk guys friends and almost huffs and puffs when I mention my husband. He is married too, so I don’t get it.

[AnonAndrew]

Most likely he either feels inadequate, and those things trigger his insecurities, or he likes you.

My money is on him liking you.

(I know he's married, but we don't automatically lose the ability to like or be attracted to others when we get married.)

[Asker]

Thanks for your insight. Why would he feel inadequate?

[AnonAndrew]

You're welcome.

I don't know. Bad marriage? No girls like him (maybe even his own wife treats him poorly?) ? Career at a standstill? Erectile dysfunction? Feeling unfit and unattractive?

There could be so many reasons that could make a person feel inadequate, and lead to jealousy.

My money's still on him liking you, though.

[Asker]

Great ok, thank you

[AnonAndrew]

You're welcome. :)

[Anonymous]

What’s not to get? He likes you. Marriage doesn’t mean you automatically start find other women or men attractive. But at the same time even if he finds you attractive his behavior is not warranted for a number of reasons. One being that you’re both married. He gets jealous of the lack of attention when you’re giving that attention to other men. Sometimes he may ignore you when you’re giving other men attention.

[Asker]

Thanks for this. Yes I think this is spot on. He does actually ignore me sometimes when this happens too, you think it’s his way of dealing with it?

[Nikki1989]

He has feelings for you and probably has some issues with immaturity by the sounds of it.

[Asker]

Thanks for this. He is a fair bit younger than me, so that would make sense too.