Situationship Drama?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone,
I have a story for you and please if you could give me some honest advice.

I started talking to this one guy about a month ago. We had known each other previously through mutual friends but nothing came of it till we ran into each other in person and hit it off.

We start texting every day, phone calls, facetime. He’s complimenting me from head to toe, asking me to go on a date (which we did).
Then after a solid week and a half of his lovey dovey nature he does a complete 180. He gets dry, tells me he wants to “lock in” for school, he’s busy. But I believed it because he’s getting his masters right now. Then he comes back and we text normally until he completely ghosts me for 3 days to then send me a reel on instagram captioned “Missing you”. I called him out on his inconsistency and he agreed with me and apologized.

Talked to me for another couple of days and then went ghost again. It’s been three days since i’ve last heard from him but he still watches all my posts and stories.

I feel like I should completely detach from him but it’s just such a shame because he’s 100% my type and checks most of my boxes besides this weird switch up of energy.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're caught in a classic situationship, marked by inconsistency and mixed signals. While it's understandable to be drawn to someone who seems to tick your boxes, his behavior demonstrates a lack of respect for your time and feelings. His pattern of hot-and-cold communication, followed by ghosting and then superficial attempts to reconnect, suggests he's not ready or willing to offer the consistency and clarity you deserve. Protecting your peace of mind is paramount; therefore, detaching yourself from this cycle is the healthiest course of action. His continued social media engagement is likely an attempt to keep you on the hook, and should not be taken as a genuine sign of interest. Focus on individuals who value clear and respectful communication.