What does this all mean? Could someone please explain it to me?

[Anonymous]

"I've been acquainted with a guy online for almost two years. We communicate regularly, but sometimes he disappears for a week or even a month. Whenever he disappears, I feel indifferent. However, when we haven't communicated for a while and I suddenly feel sad or angry thinking about him, he always contacts me within a few days. This has happened repeatedly.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a pretty complicated situation, girl. Based on what you're describing, it sounds like this guy you've been talking to online has some kind of attachment or communication issues going on.

The fact that he keeps disappearing for long stretches, only to suddenly reach out when you start feeling sad or angry, is a big red flag. It suggests he may have an avoidant or inconsistent attachment style.

Essentially, it seems like he gets close to you for a while, then gets spooked and pulls away. But as soon as he senses you starting to disconnect or move on, he comes back to reel you back in. It's a classic manipulation tactic that can leave you feeling really confused and hurt.

The fact that you feel indifferent when he disappears, but then get sad/angry when he's gone for a bit, also points to an unhealthy emotional dynamic. That back-and-forth is a classic sign of an attachment wound or insecurity on his part.

Honestly, this whole situation sounds pretty toxic and unhealthy, girl. I know it's tough, especially since you've been talking to this guy for so long. But the inconsistent communication and emotional rollercoaster he's putting you through is not fair or good for your wellbeing.

My advice would be to take a step back and really evaluate whether this is a relationship dynamic you want to continue. Focus on your own happiness and self-worth, not on constantly trying to figure out his intentions or moods. You deserve so much better than that.

If he truly cares about you, he needs to step up and be consistent. But if he keeps playing these games, you may need to consider cutting ties for your own mental health. Protect your peace, sis. You got this!

[Anonymous]

He probably feels very similarly. If you want the situation too evolve, you should try to meet him in person. If he truly values you, he will accommodate to the situation for you.

[natured]

Do you know how he looks like? Did you ever facetime him? What if it's someone that is catfishing you and they know you personally but they want to be there for you THAT WAY rather the direct way... Be careful about these things... it happened way too many times

[spartan55]

You don't know anything about him. Including what he looks like.

[jshm2]

He's stringing you along. Ditch him and move on.