What should you do if you are talking to a guy who is very attractive but doesn't know how to communicate?

[Adelinereilly2121]

What to do? I'm in a talking stage with a guy who is very attractive , handsome and tall. He is kind, extrovert (in front of his friends, not in front of me), and outgoing, yet he has never dated anyone or never had a girlfriend, which leaves him unsure of how to engage in conversation; he tends to repeat certain messages multiple times. He also struggles to articulate his thoughts clearly. I'm the one who explains things for both of us, and it wears me out. He has some minor issues with his ego and can be a bit stubborn 💀. He starts conversations but doesn't keep them going, so I end up being the only one putting in the effort to maintain the dialogue and energize this talking stage. It doesn't imply that he doesn't want to talk; he is attracted to me, but he simply doesn't know how to communicate. He don't ask questions. I ask a question. Everything is unfamiliar to him, which leaves me feeling mentally drained. 😭 Everything feels overwhelming. Initiating any sort of conversation is challenging. My friends suggested I should block him, but I want to give him a chance; however, his inability to sustain a meaningful conversation is exhausting.😭😭idk what to do?

[serious]

Well, it is really surprising you are saying that he is outgoing and extrovert but yet lacks seriously in the area of communication? . This is normally not the case with extroverts. Okay I understand he might not have any experience because he has always been single but normal level of communication should be very easy for an extrovert and outgoing person. Introverts usually have this problem.

He come off as an exception to me. Well, the logical choice is you should just cease contact with him because you said it yourself that it mentally draining to keep the conversation going always. However, if you have decided to give him a chance then you might have to understand the root cause of this problem and then work towards it.

[Cormac995]

You need to be the one to bridge the gap. He doesn't have the skills to do it so he's probably feeling stuck. If you take the lead it will do wonders for his nerves I think speaking as someone who has low social skills. This guy does sound a bit red flaggy but giving him the benefit of the doubt you need to bring this up to him and talk to him on a personal level about this or it will never get better. He needs you to teach him through this since he's never had it before basically. I mean think about it. You're expecting him to be a boyfriend but he's literally never been one. How is he supposed to do something he has no idea how to do?

[Entertained_Adult]

Do everything the way he wants.

What, your ego is too troublesome for that? What did you mean when you said " He has some minor issues with his ego and can be a bit stubborn..."?

Is it that he doesn't do things your way? That's what you think. Pehaps he thinks it's the opposite, and WHY do you suppose that he wants to follow some sort of established structure for communicating? If he had questions he would've asked them. Better this way than asking nonsense for the sake of asking it.

[teamvic]

Hmmm I mean, his inability to communicate is going to be a lingering issue for you to be honest

y'all haven't even started dating and it's a struggle for you

But I know you wouldn't listen if I were to tell you it won't work out so as far as what you should do. I suppose you going to have to be very patient and perhaps try to get him to be more vocal and maybe even tell him about how he's not expressive enough. In a nice way that is

But sounds like a lot of work to me buddy. So good luck

[spartan55]

The fact that you are in a 'talking stage' almost guarantees nothing will happen. Either go on a date or don't...

[Anonymous]

Continue to talk to him in person. He will eventually normalize with time.

[Anonymous]

Leave him alone. He can do much better it sounds like.

[jahaims]

You are talking to an idiot just because he is hot

[DCVsMarvel2]

Maybe don't judge a book...