Guys, be honest…why do you ask for pictures while chatting with girls?

[Anonymous]

Could be face or body pics

[glennos89]

Face pictures are important because when your talking to someone it's kinda weird and unpersonal to not be able to visualize who you are talking to.

Ofcourse their are also many people out here who are desperate to see some spicy pictures when they are horny

[BarryLiverstone]

Honestly girls I’ve chatted with have asked about guys and why they don’t initiate or approach. So they felt insecure and wanted feedback how they appeared to guys.

[Asker]

What if the girl didn’t ask but the guy insists he wants to see her

[BarryLiverstone]

Do you mean in the case that the girl is being flirty and fun and hinting? Or the case the guy is being demanding and not respectful of her?

[Asker]

The first one…flirt and fun

[BarryLiverstone]

So in that case I’ll say that guys tend to be more visual than girls and if they are having a fun chat and he senses she’s vibing then he may ask so that the chat stays flirty and escalates. Girls enjoy compliments and seem to match flirty energy if they shared a picture and a guy reacted happily.

Like I suggested she might even hint at it but don’t you think girls are less direct?

[Asker]

I think in general yes, but really depends on the girl you’re talking to and the kind of conversation you’re having …if she feels comfortable enough then girls can be more direct

[BarryLiverstone]

I agree with you. And from what I’ve learned girls want to feel a connection with someone else and feel safe. Like you said if she feels comfortable it’s like she can better relax and up the flirting. It’s fun when that conversation flows

[BarryLiverstone]

How would you let a guy know that you feel comfortable talking to him?

[Asker]

Yes, that’s very true…that’s what most girls want…to be able to feel safe so she can express herself freely without holding back.
While chatting, if I’m comfortable I’d most likely respond to you frequently and ask some follow up questions to get to know more about the person and based on his answers if it seems he’s a decent guy might flirt a little

[BarryLiverstone]

That makes sense. When girls are engaged and asking questions that feels good as a guy because we can answer and carry on the conversation. Learning more about her and seeing what we have in common. Yes not holding back is key because if she’s holding back how could we ever see the real person? That level of expression should be met with kindness and open mindedness

[Asker]

Yes, absolutely!
Being open minded and respectful opens a lot of doors

[BarryLiverstone]

And there is the answer. When a guy feels like he’s being respectful and open and can sense that she’s vibing, he’s more likely to flirt back and ask. She’s helping the escalation by adding to the chat

[Asker]

Yeah you’re right, but what does it mean when they stop responding or flirting as much after you send them pictures? Like making some excuse about needing to go somewhere and never getting back again?

[BarryLiverstone]

Well it could mean a few things. Depending on what all happened

[BarryLiverstone]

How did he react to getting the pictures and what kinds of flirting was happening

[Asker]

Let’s say the conversation turned a bit sexual or spicy

[Asker]

Not nudes, just pictures of the girl and and him asking some naughty questions or telling his preferences

[BarryLiverstone]

Right not nudes. But did he give feedback after she shared and how did the conversation end? Like I didn’t know if you just talked once or many times

[Asker]

Yes, he said she looks great and flirted some more and then after some more back and forth he said he needed to go somewhere. Talked just once

[BarryLiverstone]

If you wanna follow me and tell the story I can try to help. It’s likely if the guy made an excuse then he didn’t wanna keep flirting for some reason

[BarryLiverstone]

But if he never did get back to her again that’s no bueno. That’s not safety at all and would hurt her

[BarryLiverstone]

How long did she wait for him to come back?

[Asker]

That’s alright, I think I got the idea…thanks for all your help :) It wasn’t any risky picture so it’s fine and I think I sort of scared him a little by asking questions about him.. lol

[BarryLiverstone]

Fair enough. I’m not sure what questions would scare a guy if he was feeling flirty like you say but as you said it wasn’t anything risky so you probably still felt a bit closed off

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome.

[BarryLiverstone]

He may have also finished something and then made an excuse to leave as he felt guilty

[Asker]

Oh I see, makes sense.

[Asker]

But I’m just curious, why a random girl he’s talking to vs. thousands more online showing way more for free

[BarryLiverstone]

Like you said, she’s interacting with him

[Asker]

Okay, so it’s more of an in the moment thing with a willing girl.. got it

[BarryLiverstone]

Just like it’s a moment thing with a willing guy. She’s wanting to have a conversation with him in that moment and likes the attention, right?

[Asker]

Yes, that’s correct

[BarryLiverstone]

So both people enjoy the conversation. As I said the only downside is he told her he would be back and broke that promise.

[Asker]

Yes, but honestly since it was a one time thing didn’t matter much…was just curious

[BarryLiverstone]

Right. I’m just trying to honestly answer as it matters enough for you to ask the question. If it didn’t matter at all you wouldn’t have asked lol

[Asker]

Yeah thanks for that, you have been very helpful.. it was a first for me that’s why

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok that makes sense. As it was a first time for you that’s why you felt curious and why you would have preferred him to come back. Must have been fun

[Asker]

Yes, exactly…would probably not do it again with a stranger though

[BarryLiverstone]

Had you not asked this gag question then I would believe that. But as you said you felt curious so I believe you would flirt with another stranger in the future. I could be wrong

[Asker]

I’m okay with flirting but maybe not more now

[BarryLiverstone]

We just circled back to the safety context I answered yesterday. I absolutely understand you would enjoy flirting with a stranger , but not more because you don’t feel comfortable. But I would say you would go beyond flirting once you did feel safer and knew that he wasn’t going away. And that’s why you just included the word “maybe”.

[Asker]

Hahaha you got me there…I think I am more inclined to that once I know it’s safe to do so…maybe because I don’t know what the future holds:/
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[Asker]

by the way I’m following you

[BarryLiverstone]

Thank you. And yes I thought that’s why you didn’t want to until you felt more connected to the guy. Much like as a guy he’s less likely to open up to a stranger as it’s unsafe

[Asker]

Yes, that’s true…I guess it goes both ways. Would something like this be a turn off for you?

[BarryLiverstone]

Like she gets busy and doesn’t come back?

[Asker]

No, I meant talking to someone once you know they’ve had such an experience

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh. No, it’s not a turn off. We all have experiences and try new things in life. I wouldn’t judge someone if I they shared that story with me. Why would you think it’s a turn off?

[Asker]

I don’t know lol.. maybe because we have spoken before, just wondering. Would you like to talk more in dm?

[BarryLiverstone]

Feel free to dm

[Nikki1989]

Most men always want something for nothing. Pictures are just the start of their shtick.

[Spencer10]

Just chatting? No I generally do not. Its a bit creepy in my opinion. If its a dating site naturally appearance does play a part but otherwise if you are just chatting I think its irrelevant what a woman looks like. Its her ideas and opinions that matters.

[Joshydavid25]

It's nice to know what the person you are chatting with looks like.. But probably moreso just interest..

[Asker]

What if it’s a bit more flirty or sexy in context but not nudes?

[Joshydavid25]

Like the pictures you send, or the conversation period?

[Asker]

The conversation…. I don’t think all pictures were sexy, some were just for reference

[Joshydavid25]

Then that's definitely a reason to ask for pictures.. You wanna know who you're flirting with..

[Asker]

Alright, thanks for the answer:)

[Joshydavid25]

Of course.. No problem.. 😄

[Anonymous]

So we know we are not wasting time with an ugly one

[Anonymous]

Cuz they’re interested in you?

[Aldan1609]

I like to know what people look like 😊

[Danny_dan92]

Perception