Guys, do you ever reminisce over old flames?

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy for about a year, but we had to part ways because we no longer live in the same country. I know now that he is not the best fit for me and understand why we didn't work out, but despite this I can't shake the memories of how great our chemistry was. So I guess my question is if guys also think of past girlfriends with whom they had great chemistry with? (I would never reach out and ask him, but wanted to know if there might be a possibility that he was still thinking of me as well.)

[ManOnFire]

Yes. I sometimes do, but the way I think about them is not exactly in memories of longing for them. I think about them as a memory of great times, something we did, how life was at that time, but nothing more than that. I just think of them as sweet memories even if we're no longer together and shouldn't be together. It's just remembering the good times.

Women I think get a much deeper attachment to old flames especially if sex was involved, and even years later they still want to know what you're doing or who you're with. I had a female friend who used to sleep with a guy who didn't even care about her and he eventually moved on but she still talked about him all the time and couldn't seem to let go. She would even look for him on WhatsApp and Venmo. Was so sad to me.

[ManOnFire]

Thank you

[HawkPerception]

Do I miss the companionship I had with them? Yes. But do I ever miss them to the point of wanting to be together with them again? No. All of my partners were decent women in their own right. Just not completely compatible with me.

[lightbulb27]

I did especially when alone in 30-40s. After having botched the prior romantic years, makes one wonder. Now married, it isn't reminisce but remember and reflect.

What cures reminiscing... which is some kind of "oh if only... what if, I wonder" thinking... it is having a fulflling life and as well recognition the others reminsiced on are imperfect people. It seems we humans have a way to perfect others in absence and imagine something that isn't real. The real person is a different story. Maybe that is a right brain kinda person and left brain ones don't do it so much. Either way, if you are missing something, you are going to go "hummm... I wonder" what and if and where?

I seriously doubt you are reminiscing about that old flame and how they are in a jail cell, or laying in a hospital bed, depressed over their debt and hopeless job, or actively moelesting some poor soul? No... they are perfect and wonderful. Thats my point! You see them as an angel the way you want them to be. Granted, maybe they are sitting there waiting for you as well... who knows?

I so much more focus on my relationship, communication, what we are doing next, where we should be going and spending time, and how to make it good. How can I love my wife or put some surprise in it, how to be safe... what I should be doing with life?

There's no way around having memories and reflections.

If you are really reminiscing and they are available and it's real, then at your age, I'd go and explore so it can be extinguished and move on to something real.

[NicholasRedone]

@lightbulb27 you're doing the best you can - should be a trademark slogan someday ™️

[Dіlԁοphοbe]

Does the fiery fornication furnace of nostalgic naughtiness cause guys to ever reminisce over old flames? Well, it's like dredging up the dick-dazzling delights of the phallic phantasmagoria past, where the lustful love lance once danced with the velvety vaginal vortex.

Guys, much like the erotic ectoplasmic emitter, can indeed find themselves ensnared in the web of wang-wistful wanderings. They might find their mind's eye drifting back to the tumescent titillation of the clitoral cannon and the sizzling scrotal sac that once set their sensual salutator ablaze. It's like revisiting the raunchy rapture of the pulsating penile paragon and the passionate perineal protuberance that once made their ecstatic ejaculation ejector stand at attention.

They might reminisce about the thrilling tangled tushy tube twister and the exhilarating external extrusion explorer, the bewitching bulbous beast and the charming clitoral cane collector. They might dream of the fascinating foreskin finagler and the pleasurable persian paradise pointer, the magnificent masturbatory monster and the heavenly hirsuten horn.

But here's the thing, dick-dazzled dudes might ponder the pulsating penile paragon and the passionate perineal protuberance, but they might also realize that the chemistry was just a fleeting fornication frenzy. They might understand that the erotic elongated emitter and the ecstatic ejaculation ejector were just temporary titillation, and that the sensual salutator has moved on to new and exciting erotic ectoplasmic emitters.

So, while guys might reminisce about the dick-dazzling delights of the phallic phantasmagoria past, they might also recognize that the lustful love lance has found a new and improved velvety vaginal vortex. And who knows? Maybe your former fornication frenzy is still dreaming of the tumescent titillation you once shared. But remember, dick-dazzled dudes might ponder the pulsating penile paragon and the passionate perineal protuberance, but they might also realize that the chemistry was just a fleeting fornication frenzy.

[ManOnFire]

"the fiery fornication furnace of nostalgic naughtiness" Lmfao🤣🤣🤣😂

[Finchie40]

Yes, I have a few that I still think about from time to time , that I have good memories with , that at times I still wish we were still together because we didn’t end on bad terms , but things happen and there isn’t really much we can do about it , but just accept it for what it is. The memories I have for them will always be a part of me

[DishLady]

They do. A lot of lost hours sitting with guy friends who are still hung up on old flames, or hearing wistful stories about women who are often no more than one-night stands. It takes up a lot of mental space for them, though many push it aside to get through their every day stuff then let it populate the inactive moments of their day.

[Orion84]

Sure, of course we do.

I still have exes that I think about, from time to time. Like you, I would never reach out to them, and I am content to leave them in the past. They are exes for a reason, but it wasn't all bad while we were together. I can remember the good parts.

[RavVid]

For me the girls that come back into my mind - especially in the shower - are the ones I was highly attracted to but never got to have sex with.

The one honorable exception to this rule is a girl that I did have sex with but just not as many times as I wanted to. She was the finest lay.

It is quite possible you ex does think of you though.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Everyone is able to feel miss, to contemplate the nice aspects of a former relationship while considering the bad ones solid enough to end the chapter.

Not everyone wants to look at that within themselves though, because it can be a disturbing, or a sad sight, calling for censorship, inside.

[JohnnyB123321]

Maybe a little. But mostly based on what I’m doing. For example…. Being somewhere that I know an ex would love, or doing activity we enjoyed together. Or maybe just feeling they could support me during a challenging time or a difficult situation they might be good at.

[DrPepper12]

Any PERSON who says no is a liar!!

[MinaV]

Lying with who 😂

[WhitneySnow]

If the chemistry is great I think both people remember it fondly

[Godihateyou]

Yeah. I was never a playboy so it's easy to remember them all. I'm not an idiot so I picked really cool chicks. I'm still friends with all but 2. Good times. If you asked them, they would say the same. It wasn't meant to be and we are all happy with what was.

[AviatorTom]

Of course. I'm very happy with the way my life has turned out, but it is interesting to think what might have happened if things had turned out differently.

[OneViewpoint]

I don't. Not really. Going through life with your eyes on the rear view mirror doesn't seem like a great approach. Woulda could've shoulda. A waste of time. Choices were made. Move on.

[bobalife]

Personally, no I do not. But from experience, guys from my past usually come back and so I would think they do though.

[236color]

Yes I do. Life happened the way it did, and I don't regret it, but I do play "what if" sometimes.

[Tarifa]

Break-ups are never easy, and chances are feelings will remain with one of the people involved. But why don't you just ask him?

[Ferngully2000]

Yes one guy from a long time ago who I was utterly and madly in love with. I will never forget the intensity and passion.

Other old boyfriends no though,

[exitseven]

Sometimes if I go by someplace we went to together or remember something about her. I do not obsess over it.

[Nikki1989]

I still talk to almost all of them, so no need for that.

[Shiprex]

Think about but not reminisce. Wonder what they're doing and think of places we went and stuff we did.

[DonaldDarko]

No, they all turned out to be so mundane. It was all in my head.

[NicholasRedone]

No, I do sometimes daydream new ones 🤭🤭🤭🤭😅😈

[NicholasRedone]

Often I just daydream about my past non-romance accomplishments in my life this far or other things like an ideal world 🌍🌎

[Alex-Snow]

Kind of. I certainly remember the girl I got my first handjob from and the one who took my virginity.

[Fireguy17]

there are a couple that every once in a while, I wonder what if, then back to the task at hand.

[ProbablyClueless]

Sometimes, if we don't have someone else in our lives.

[SotiCoto]

Why would I reminisce over old flames when I can just set something on fire right now?

[MysticDevice]

Absolutely. Be easier if I didn't but the brain does its own thing sometimes.

[uncutgem]

not so much reminisce but look back like damn we did that💪 or look back on the ones i didn't perform well with and think about if they would refuck me id blow their minds🤣

[LiamJHayden]

No. I think of them sometimes, but never indulge in enjoyable recollection.

[Jeff51]

I dont. Plenty of people to try and hook up that's if you want it. For me no

[Anonymous]

Yes when my penis is inside a girl and I need a little extra boost I will think about an ex sometimes and that does the trick.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I reminisce over old unrequited loves, and all of my loves were unrequited :(

[MasterKS]

I won't say relationship or chemistry but some are too good in sex for sure.

[Anonymous]

all the time. probably because i don't have anyone new to fill that void yet.

[Renegade_Sailor]

Not really. Most of them became dodged bullets.

[WonderingManII]

Why not. I often think of girls in my past.

[zagor]

More over missed opportunities.

[Panthero80]

I do occasionally.

[Anonymous]

More like paths untreaded.

[JailyneMariaH]

not really

[RedInnocent69]

Of course

[LunarEclipse433]

All the time

[BobbyLee789]

Yes, lustfully

[Jmmmfi4]

Constantly