Need an honest outside perspective: am I overreacting or finally seeing things clearly?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. We had a recent fight over something small (splitting cost of beer), and he taunted me saying, “This is why I don’t take you anywhere to hang around” I got visibly upset and cried, but instead of comforting me, he packed his stuff after a while, banged things around, shouted at me and left. he also said things like, “You haven’t seen my anger yet, and it’s bad,” . Later, I found out he went to a friend’s place to drink and smoke. It also felt like he was about to hit me in a moment. He barged out saying he cannot stay in the negative environment i had created.
This isn’t the first time—whenever I’m at my lowest, he either shuts down, leaves, or blames me entirely. At work the next day, he didn’t even talk to me properly, just casually asked if I’d eaten as if nothing happened.
I’m feeling really mentally drained. Am I being too sensitive or is this a red flag I shouldn’t ignore?

[Anonymous]

If this was the NFL there’d be all kind of flags on the field. You need to move on. I get that it’s probably not all his fault. If you’re being honest w yourself maybe you have been at fault as well partially, usually both sides are at fault. Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe you did nothing. But the way he’s reacting, you’re in a verbally abusive relationship. It could turn into a physically abusive relationship. He’s trying to put everything on you w out taking responsibility for his part. Maybe he shouldn’t be drinking or smoking. You continuing to be w him just reinforces his behavior. I’m sure it’s happened numerous times but you chose to stay. I’m sure he’s apologized, but it’s happen again. One day he may damn well but you, then apologize. I’m sorry I’ll never do that again. So you’ll stay then it’ll happen again. Set boundaries for yourself. One boundary should be not accepting this type of behavior.

[Alex-Snow]

Red flag. He is unhinged and is likely to give you emotional or even physical abuse. I would dump his ass and block him on socials. You deserve better!

[Jeff51]

2.5 is a long time. You can ask what is wrong. Maybe something has happened and he did not tell you.