Whatsapp reaction to message but no response. thoughts?

My partner 37M (sort of) has started to just react to my WhatsApp messages (32F). So when I have sent him a message with the last few turns he just reacts with a heart.

He is currently going through sorting his life out with alcohol and he had pushed me away a few months ago. Then 4 weeks ago he contacted me and we had messaged a bit since. Not like before but I thought things were getting slightly better. I said I would support him while he sorts himself out but we didn't label what we are now.

Then 2 weekends ago he suggested we meet up. Asked twice and then on the day he backed out because he was sick. This was a repeated behaviour before the previous break-up and part of me thinks it was because he was drunk. I didn't take it to heart as I know its not a reflection on me. Any thoughts about just reacting to messages. Is it just because he has no more interest? I don't text every day or anything like before. Maybe every 2 or 3 days so that he knows he is supported but not overwhelmed etc.

Any thoughts?

HollyK21

Master Age: 34

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Sounds like you’re wasting your time but don’t want to let go.

Plkerry

1 y
I love this man very much. I had given up hope and then he came saying how he was struggling but that he loved me and didn't want to lose me. But since the cancelled meeting I feel he has no interest anymore again. I know it is prob the drink but still

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HollyK21

1 y
I get that you love this guy but at some point you’ve got to love yourself more. I mean this guy fully takes you for granted, picks and chooses when you’re going to matter and you just let him get away with every single thing. How can he see your value when you aren’t valuing yourself? When you’re eating up every excuse he gives, never giving him repercussions (and I say never because even if you do you always take him back so it doesn’t matter), like you are way too easy to keep there’s no work with you at this point. You can do a lot better for yourself than this. Leave him alone, he needs to get help and a relationship should be the last of his worries until he does.

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Plkerry

1 y
Thanks. I left him alone for the 8 weeks after he sent the text that he wanted space. I worked on myself and moved on. No text or anything. I know I can do better but I am also a kind person who sees the best in people. It was the way I was brought up. He has serious issues yes. And i realise he needs to sort them all out on his own. When you are in my situation it might be different. We had spent 1.5 years of a good relationship before anything bad really happened. He had a horrific childhood and it raised its head a few months ago. I just wanted to get peoples opinion on does responding with just a reaction indicate he wants to be left alone or has lost interest? I value myself highly. I am doing very well for myself in life, have a house, a great job and almost finished a PhD.

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Plkerry

1 y
It is also my first relationship. Yes probably sad at 32 years of age that it is. Before him no other man even looked at me (I am attractive but just always a friend and nothing else) so yes maybe I don't know exactly what is and what isn't normal in relationships.

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HollyK21

1 y
I don’t want you to think I’m speaking from a place of judgement or inexperience — I’ve been in your shoes before, which is the only fair way for me to say what I say.

I get it, the relationship’s nuanced and there’s more to it than you could post here, but at the end of the day you’ve got to prioritize yourself, your mental health, your well-being, and dealing with a person like him isn’t beneficial to any of it. One thing you’ve got to keep in mind is that if you want a future with marriage and babies, the person you date now could potentially fill those roles. With all the love you have for him aside, what sort of husband and role model could this inconsistent, alcoholic, indecisive man potentially be? It’s as if you got the best parts of him during that first stretch of your relationship and now it’s the memory of that time which keeps you hanging on — not current redeeming qualities.

Now I can’t tell you exactly what an emoji (reaction) is supposed to mean for him but you can decide what it means for you. Truly, what does it mean for you when you’re not getting clear communication on top of everything you’re already accommodating from him. He doesn’t strike me as a good boyfriend, potential husband or father, not a good role model or partner at any capacity. Whether he wants to be left alone or not — just do it for yourself. He’s got to want to get better before you could ever try helping him do that.

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HollyK21

1 y
& I got into my first serious relationship at 30, so don’t be hard on yourself for that. Everyone’s path is different, doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you🤍

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Plkerry

1 y
Thank you for taking the time to respond. Means a lot ❤️

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HollyK21

1 y
No problem hun good luck with all this☺️

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spartan55 Follow
Master Age: 54 , mho 39%

1 y
33.2K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

He is not interested and you are way too old for the idiocy that is Snapchat.

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6 Reply
- Plkerry
  
  1 y
  It's not snapchat. It's whatsapp messages. He keeps coming back to me which is confusing
  
- spartan55
  
  1 y
  Same difference... and it is WAY too easy to confuse you.
  
- Plkerry
  
  1 y
  When I pull away and leave he doesn't want that so yes it is confusing. He tells me he loves me, misses me and then other days doesn't want to communicate. With his level of MH at this minute, I have to be mindful of that also.
  
- spartan55
  
  1 y
  His mental health isn't your problem. Is he your only option or something? Girls are always so deathly afraid of even appearing desperate... and then...🙄
  
- Plkerry
  
  1 y
  Far from desperate which is why I asked the question. I had been alone all my life before I met him so don't need a man at all in my life. No need to be horrible or stereotypical of women. I just asked for some advice before leaving him alone as we had something good previously and didn't want to throw away something which was important to me.
  
- spartan55
  
  1 y
  Okay, well it's pretty obvious that this guy is not interested and keeps you around for attention or whatever. The 'why' doesn't matter, you will never get an answer you'll like anyway. The important part is his actions towards you.
  
HollyK21 Follow
Master Age: 34 , mho 87%

1 y
2.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Sounds like you’re wasting your time but don’t want to let go.

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8 Reply
- Plkerry
  
  1 y
  I love this man very much. I had given up hope and then he came saying how he was struggling but that he loved me and didn't want to lose me. But since the cancelled meeting I feel he has no interest anymore again. I know it is prob the drink but still
  
- HollyK21
  
  1 y
  I get that you love this guy but at some point you’ve got to love yourself more. I mean this guy fully takes you for granted, picks and chooses when you’re going to matter and you just let him get away with every single thing. How can he see your value when you aren’t valuing yourself? When you’re eating up every excuse he gives, never giving him repercussions (and I say never because even if you do you always take him back so it doesn’t matter), like you are way too easy to keep there’s no work with you at this point. You can do a lot better for yourself than this. Leave him alone, he needs to get help and a relationship should be the last of his worries until he does.
  
- Plkerry
  
  1 y
  Thanks. I left him alone for the 8 weeks after he sent the text that he wanted space. I worked on myself and moved on. No text or anything. I know I can do better but I am also a kind person who sees the best in people. It was the way I was brought up. He has serious issues yes. And i realise he needs to sort them all out on his own. When you are in my situation it might be different. We had spent 1.5 years of a good relationship before anything bad really happened. He had a horrific childhood and it raised its head a few months ago. I just wanted to get peoples opinion on does responding with just a reaction indicate he wants to be left alone or has lost interest? I value myself highly. I am doing very well for myself in life, have a house, a great job and almost finished a PhD.
  
- Plkerry
  
  1 y
  It is also my first relationship. Yes probably sad at 32 years of age that it is. Before him no other man even looked at me (I am attractive but just always a friend and nothing else) so yes maybe I don't know exactly what is and what isn't normal in relationships.
  
- HollyK21
  
  1 y
  I don’t want you to think I’m speaking from a place of judgement or inexperience — I’ve been in your shoes before, which is the only fair way for me to say what I say.
  
  I get it, the relationship’s nuanced and there’s more to it than you could post here, but at the end of the day you’ve got to prioritize yourself, your mental health, your well-being, and dealing with a person like him isn’t beneficial to any of it. One thing you’ve got to keep in mind is that if you want a future with marriage and babies, the person you date now could potentially fill those roles. With all the love you have for him aside, what sort of husband and role model could this inconsistent, alcoholic, indecisive man potentially be? It’s as if you got the best parts of him during that first stretch of your relationship and now it’s the memory of that time which keeps you hanging on — not current redeeming qualities.
  
  Now I can’t tell you exactly what an emoji (reaction) is supposed to mean for him but you can decide what it means for you. Truly, what does it mean for you when you’re not getting clear communication on top of everything you’re already accommodating from him. He doesn’t strike me as a good boyfriend, potential husband or father, not a good role model or partner at any capacity. Whether he wants to be left alone or not — just do it for yourself. He’s got to want to get better before you could ever try helping him do that.
  
- HollyK21
  
  1 y
  & I got into my first serious relationship at 30, so don’t be hard on yourself for that. Everyone’s path is different, doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you🤍
  
- Plkerry
  
  1 y
  Thank you for taking the time to respond. Means a lot ❤️
  
- HollyK21
  
  1 y
  No problem hun good luck with all this☺️

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