Why did he do this? I just don’t believe him? Is he trying to manipulate me and make me feel bad for not listening to him?

[Magosmall06]

I met a guy at a party months ago while on a trip. We’ve been talking for six months. I am currently visiting the area as my friends are there. I met up with him, we spoke and cuddled and kissed all day, and then slept together twice. The next day, he was being a bit distant and I told him he left his charger at mine. He came over to get it, and we cuddled and kissed a little bit, a few hours later he got up and said “sorry I am not feeling it”. I was very confused by this, he then said he wasn’t attracted to me and that he was sorry, he then left.

I was really upset by this, we have spoken for months, he has met me before, he even has a photo album of me on his phone. Then to tell me he isn’t attracted to me after sleeping with me when he knew that he wasn’t into it? He said he slept with me because he was trying to be kind. But he also said how he gave me advice on my appearance and things that I could to do improve me etc and he said how I ignored everything. I still feel like it doesn’t make sense. How can you force yourself to kiss someone let alone sleep with them if you aren’t attracted to them?

He has also been very nasty to me about it. And he has been nasty in the past multiple times towards me in general. For example, I have a serious injury just now which suddenly happened so I can’t go to the gym, I feel awful as it is about it and he got angry at me for not exercising at home. The only exercise I can do right now is walking. He’s also said multiple disturbing things, For example, a few days ago he told me when he was younger when his ex split up with him he was so angry that he wanted to kill her and her family, he wasn’t just saying it I could see that he meant it. And he always goes on misogynistic rants about woman. He claims that men have not changed but women have. He even said yesterday that I should do what he says. I have blocked him but my mind is everywhere, I feel so hurt. Why did he say that to me? Do you think he means it?

[spartan55]

So you didn't see ANY of this concerning behavior before sleeping with him?

[spartan55]

Also, your contention that he slept with you when he wasn't attracted isn't true. Something that happened after that made him lose his attraction.

[Magosmall06]

Yeah I should’ve honestly walked away ages ago. He has Sean so many red flags. He told me he slept with me because he was trying to be kind. I said to him that doesn’t make sense. How could you force yourself to sleep with someone if you’re not attracted to them. And nothing happened after. I mean, he’s trying to get me to follow his advice on like eating, And listening morphic fields (some weird YouTube videos that play music). Ants, he said that I did nothing and didn’t listen to anything that he said. So I think he said he wasn’t attracted to me because I won’t do as he says. Because he gets extremely angry if I don’t do what he says or if I don’t follow his advice. So that’s what I think although he refuses to say that’s the reason. He just says that he slept with me to be kind, which doesn’t make sense. Like surely you cannot force yourself to sleep with someone if you’re not attracted to them?

[Magosmall06]

But he was also struggling during sex, he gets s*x anxiety and I tried to be kind about that but I spoke to my friend about it and she thinks he’s embarrassed about it so he would rather say he’s not attracted to me kind of thing. But either way, I don’t believe that he’s not attracted to me because we’ve spoken for six months, he’s met me in person before he even got my number, he has a photo album under my name with photos of my face in his phone, and also he kissed me back and slept with me like surely you do any of those things if you were not attracted to someone. He tried to say he didn’t know if he was attracted to me or not, but I don’t believe him because surely he would’ve known if he was attracted to me or not when we first met

[spartan55]

He is full of shit he didn't force himself to do anything. He found you attractive then had sex with you and wasn't. This is a HIM problem, not yours. Frankly it's a waste of time to bother getting answers because you won't get any that make sense. Just get rid of that clown and block him. He sounds like a abuser in training to me.

[spartan55]

Believing him or whatever is completely missing the point here.

[Magosmall06]

Thank you. I have gotten rid of him and I’ve blocked them. Yeah I suspected he was abusive

[spartan55]

I think you definitely made the right decision.

[Magosmall06]

Thank you

[spartan55]

Thanks for the MHO !

[Magosmall06]

You are welcome!

[Glamourous_Stacey]

He's toxic