Did I do the right thing or am I being weird?

[Anonymous]

A co worker was interested in me. He asked for my number. We talked (mostly only at work and text) and got to know each other for a little while. We would sit together on our lunch breaks, share lunch, greet each other with a hug etc but he now has a girlfriend. She doesn’t work there. So it wasn’t messy or anything but I just slowly stopped talking to him and giving hugs and things altogether Because after that it’s like what else is it to talk about? If he pursued me in an intimate way and not a friendly way. What would be the point of continuing communication once he’s no longer single? The conversation is gonna almost always never just be 100%. casual so I figured just say nothing like I use to do before he approached me. Respectfully. I think he’s taking it as me purposely avoiding him because he made a comment to me about avoiding doing certain work task when he’s in proximity to me because we don’t talk anymore. He said it jokingly. It was a joke but something tells me he means it but honestly I just hate to not allow things to be reality. I take things for what they are. Why would I keep on conversations and hugs when he has a woman now?

[capriVib]

You did the right thing by blocking him, but I still feel like you’re not fully ready to let go of him. It’s like I can hear that inner voice of yours saying, “I wish he’d break up with his girlfriend and come back to me.

[Asker]

Nah. It’s not that because I never had him to say “come back to me” lol it was literally a work thing. We never got the chance to go out outside of work. I really had started backing off from him before he had a girlfriend because I knew he was the lazy kind of guy. He wasn’t gonna put in much effort beyond lunch breaks together and texting and one ride home lol. He’s the type that needs you to be clingy and all over him before he puts in more effort and I just wasn’t gonna do that.