Guys, What do you mostly look at when a woman is wearing a bikini top?

[AviatorTom]

We have to admit it guys, we like to look at a woman wearing a bikini.

Thinking only about the bikini top, what do you most like to look at?

Please vote in the poll.

The COLOR and SHAPE of the BIKINI top

The EXPOSED PORTION of her breasts

Her CLEAVAGE

HOW well the bikini top FITS her

Something ELSE - please tell

[DJB72]

Nothing as beautiful as the curve of a breast in a well fitted bikini top. Not a fan of mushroom tops when the boobs are fighting for freedom or where they're rattling around like dice in a cup (pun intended)

A well fitted bikini enhances any size of boob from A to DD. Cleavage isn't important, although I'm not keen on a gap you can drive a bus through or artificially enhanced silicone mounds.

[Zack-Bann]

Pretty sure the grand majority of us don’t care about the color or pattern all that much


It’s really all about the package underneath


I’ve never looked at a woman in bikini and thought “hmm she would look better in green instead of red”

[Pyrofox]

For me its never been about the bikini bra or the cake in back. What captivates me is if a girl is paying attention when I'm talking to her and looking back at me in the eyes, body type for me has always been a solid like 2 or 3 in terms of top 5 things I notice first.

[loveslongnails]

Not all women who wear bikini's look good in them, in the opinions of all men who look at them. LOL So, a guy's first glance will take in the whole picture, and if he likes it, he'll zero in on what he likes best. Usually, that's the fullness of her boobs and how it fills the top. Next, it's how much is exposed. Too much separation or too boney of a chest and neck area doesn't look great to me.

[soe11]

• I like the question.
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• More skin exposure.
• To be honest my girlfriend's mother and her daughter live wearing Teeny Tiny adjustable strings micro narrow bikinis l.
• Both mother and daughter proud to wear at public beaches.
• I appreciate and approve, endorse and encourage them wear ot freely.

[JFuzion]

We guys don’t care about every little detail like women, so I think the last thing most of us care about is the bikini.

Usually I look at the whole picture first. First I’m like “Look at that hot girl in a bikini!” then I will look at at the cleavage and breasts.

[serious]

There is nothing much to see in a bikini as a dress itself. What I like to see is if the woman is fit and toned then I like to see her hands, her arms and also the area around her stomach, waist, abs etc.

[Anonymous]

Kind of just everything in general honestly.

But if I had to pick just one then probably the cleavage/exposed portion, not quite sure what the difference between the two is supposed to be anyway, but either way just the exposed skin of her boobs.

[NathanDavis]

her eyes...

to make sure she's not looking at me looking at her puppies...

[RavVid]

It is important to me to assess the firmness of her breasts. Do they wobble when moves?

It takes quite a bit of gazing to get a definitive assessment completed.

[BobbieBoy666]

And there a blessing 💕💕

[CaptainSmartass]

Pretty much all of it. I like a nice cleavage but not where there's a massive gap through the boobs. No-one wants to see a full on Bristol Channel...

Simples...

[Shiprex]

Her collar bones and how well proportioned as well as the neck and imagine how delicious she would behave if attention was given to her there ;)

[Lliam]

All of the above, as well as the size and fullness of her breasts. And maybe nipple bumps.

[smarthunk]

Looking at the exposed part of the boobs and wondering how the full nude boobs will look like... where are the nipples placed and how big are nipples are areola... what color nipples would be..

[MrJMM]

That she is wearing a bikini top. Listen, I’m Bi and like girls, guys, and more but I am not gonna over-sexualize girls/women just because they are wearing something like that. I'm not that kind of person.

[Shoichiro]

They made the conscious decision to go out naked. Why are you acting as if they are the victims if they're over-sexualized?

[MrJMM]

But they’re not naked though. There is a clear fabric making that they are not naked. People who say that woman would be naked wearing that and etc is literally Over-sexualizing.

[Shoichiro]

So if they were wearing sunshades and nothing else, they aren't naked either?

The point of me claiming they're naked is that the parts of the body that will elicit serious arousal in people are more than sufficiently exposed, therefore they are volunteering themselves to be sexualized if they have the knowledge that these body parts have this effect.

[MrJMM]

Of course in this time those people would be naked. Except the part that it's the people's fault for being aroused not the other way around. Literally are nude beaches and more but more than significant amount are not aroused they are hanging out. Its the other person's perspective and feelings about those stuff that makes up the arousal. Sure things are sexualized but literally the thing about this is to bring shame. Which is what ruins sex and more is literally Shame and putting off things being inappropriate it was so far that Women showing ankles in older times were considered too overly sexual. It's not the person's fault that they are being sexualized its how society has been doing for years but adapting to modern times. So the people fault not the people who wear it.

[Shoichiro]

Since person A decided to expose their body and person B got aroused since their body reacted in that way from seeing person A, it is person B's fault for being aroused according to you.

So if person A got a gun and shot person B in the head, it is person B's fault for dying since their body reacted negatively to the gun shot? I doubt you'd say so.

Do you see the see the situation? It is clearly a combination of both person A and person B. But all I am pointing out is that person A is contributing to sexualizing themselves. Therefore, they simply are not victims since they're contributing to the sexualization of their bodies.

When women say they're wearing things for themselves, they are not necessarily telling the truth. To assume they are truthful regardless of the context is simply naive. Women know that many men like breasts and they decide to wear these tops that display their cleavage even though there are many tops that don't do that. That is clearly self-sexualization in the majority of cases.

[MrJMM]

Clothing does not equal consent. A bikini is not nudity, it’s swimwear. If you feel aroused by it, that’s your body reacting — and that’s fine, but it’s your responsibility to control it. Blaming women for being sexualized because of their clothing is victim-blaming and ignores cultural proof that what is sexual changes over time. Respect means recognizing that people wear clothes for their own reasons, not as an invitation.

[Shoichiro]

It's clear that you're not even open to actual dialogue based on this response.

Firstly, consent has nothing to do with this. No one needs to receive consent to look at something in public. Secondly, you simply have not addressed my analogy. What do you think about it?

Thirdly, respect also has nothing to do with this. I don't know why you're mentioning it. I'll just add that no one is entitled to respect either. If I choose to give someone respect, then they'll receive respect from me - they cannot force me to respect them. Also, respect does not mean "recognizing that people wear clothes for their own reasons..."

[MrJMM]

Your analogy doesn’t really work. A gun physically harms someone, no matter what; a bikini doesn’t hurt anyone — it’s just clothing. The fact that you get aroused by it is your own reaction, not something the person wearing it is doing to you. And that’s where respect comes in, not that you’re forced to respect anyone, but that you take responsibility for your thoughts instead of blaming someone else’s outfit. It’s actually simple: clothes don’t sexualize people, people do.

[Shoichiro]

No, my analogy is perfectly fine. Pointing out that it is different in some ways is ridiculous because analogies are inherently different - otherwise they wouldn't be analogies, they'd just be a repeat of the example. What you need to interpret is the correspondence between the things in the analogy and the things that are in the actual example.

You keep mentioning "taking responsibility for thoughts" as if people have customized themselves to be the way they are and to like who they like. You are a self-proclaimed bisexual person. Surely you are aware that you did not choose to be bisexual. I'm stating this to illustrate the fact that there are things that people do that aren't in their control, which includes becoming aroused when seeing specific things (the act of turning your head to look is obviously in their control, but if the woman came into their vision without them anticipating it, that is not in their control).

Answer me this: if YOU went outside naked (not in a bikini or any other type of clothing), would you blame others for having a neutral reaction to your body?

[MrJMM]

I’ll answer your question: Yes, if I went outside fully naked, I wouldn’t be shocked if people reacted because that’s literally no clothes at all. But that’s also precisely the difference. A bikini is clothing, not nudity. People wearing swimsuits aren’t walking around naked; they’re dressed appropriately for the context. So while attraction itself isn’t chosen, what is desired is how we interpret and project it. Feeling something is natural; blaming someone else for what you think because of what they’re wearing isn’t. And to add another point, being bisexual isn't the same thing as sexualizing. Attraction is natural, but what you do with that attraction is a choice. Feeling aroused isn't the issue; blaming the other person for your arousal is. That's the difference. And your analogy still doesn't work because nudity and clothing are different. A bikini is clothes. So again, the responsibility lies with the viewer, not the person wearing it.

[Shoichiro]

So if a woman was wearing ONLY socks in public, technically she's not naked, right? So it's everyone else's fault if they find her attractive , even though she had the option to not go out in public or not wear only socks. You see that it's clearly ridiculous to say that technically she's clothed therefore the fault is no longer hers - both her AND the people turning to look at her are at fault.

You keep mentioning that the "difference" is that they're clothed. You also mentioned that they're "dressed appropriately for the context". Have you not seen people like Zac Efron being shirtless on the beach in movies? He also gets sexualized (unsurprisingly) by many women while being "dressed appropriately for the context" and the film producers take advantage of that to increase revenue. I struggle to see how these film producers could possibly be guiltless when it comes to exposing Zac Efron's body to allow him to be sexualized.

To address your point about "what you do with your attraction is a choice": what you "do" is any action you carry out. This includes things like breathing or playing games or digesting food. Not all of these things are within your control - you don't decide how you digest food once the food is in your stomach - therefore it is not a choice. Putting the food in your mouth and swallowing it IS a choice though. In the same way, once you have seen the woman's body, becoming aroused is not a choice, but turning your head to look at the woman in the first place is a choice. Your responses make it seem like you already BELIEVE that it isn't the other person's fault for you being aroused by their body, and now you're trying to justify that belief, instead of looking at things objectively.

Let me give you a less political example: suppose person A was on a diet and person B dangled tasty food in the face of person A. Then person A developed cravings for that food. Is it person A's fault for developing cravings?

[MrJMM]

Ok… Listen. I think part of where we’re missing each other is that I mean this literally: if someone is wearing clothing, whether a bikini or shorts, they are not naked. Naked means no fabric, like in your socks example, yes, that person would still be nude except for their feet. A bikini, however, is clothing by definition because it covers the body with fabric. That’s not a moral argument, it’s just the literal difference.

Biologically, attraction is involuntary. Our brains are wired to notice bodies, faces, symmetry, and movement. That’s normal, and no one denies it. But what happens after that initial response is where society and culture shape the outcome. Historically, different eras sexualized different body parts: In Victorian England, ankles were considered indecent; in other times, it was hair or shoulders. That proves sexualization is cultural, not just biological.

And yes, actors like Zac Efron are sexualized on screen, but that’s usually because producers and directors deliberately market their bodies to sell tickets the same way unnecessary sex scenes get written in. It’s not the actor’s fault they are being packaged that way; it’s the system deciding what sells. That’s part of the same cultural pattern of objectifying bodies for profit.

This is also why women have carried so much shame historically, being told they’re ‘too much’ if they show skin, or ‘not enough’ if they don’t look perfect. Even the Barbie movie tackled this: how patriarchy, consumerism, and media fuel those impossible double standards.

So when I say a bikini is not naked, I mean it literally. And when I say the responsibility lies with the viewer, I mean that feeling attraction isn’t wrong, it’s human, but projecting that onto someone else as if it’s their fault is what continues the cycle of shame and objectification.

[Shoichiro]

I'm going to push back on some of your points.

If you want to be literal, then please be literal. Covering any part of the body would be not nude, otherwise you are nude. Therefore if a woman is wearing only socks, she is not nude. I'm simply not the one that's getting something wrong here.

Your ankle argument can be explained by the fact that women were basically full covered back in Victorian times in England, therefore showing anything more than zero skin would be more potent (scarcity effect) than it would be in modern times where women show significantly more skin on a regular basis. If you are calling that cultural then I suppose we're agreeing on the concept, but I probably wouldn't call it cultural myself.

To say that Zac Efron was not at fault is ridiculous since he can decide not to take a movie role when they reveal to him what he is expected to do, or even just the general gist of the movie. This is the key point of disagreement so focus on this to see why he is also at fault (he's not necessarily the only one contributing to the fault though, the women [or men] choosing to watch it are also contributing).

I don't think that stuff about shame is relevant.

Again, if you want to be literal, then having socks on is sufficient to not be naked. You seem to just want to defend women.

[MrJMM]

Let me spell this out literally, since you keep twisting yourself into knots: clothing is clothing. A bikini is clothing. Naked means no clothing. Socks + nothing else = still naked. Pretending otherwise is you nitpicking for the sake of sounding smart. Guns, digestion, food cravings, sunglasses none of those stupid analogies change the fact that you keep dodging the actual point: women in bikinis are not naked. Period.

And yeah, Zac Efron takes roles, but don’t pretend like actors are the ones pulling the strings. Hollywood has been objectifying bodies forever because directors and studios know sex sells. That doesn’t mean it’s his “fault” he’s being sexualized it means the system profits off objectification. Same shit that fuels women being shamed for showing skin, or for not having “perfect” bodies. That’s literally what I was pointing to.

What’s wild is that I’m younger than you, but I actually understand the difference between literal nudity, cultural sexualization, and basic common sense. You keep spinning your wheels with edge-case crap like socks, which only makes your case look weaker. If you can’t grasp that, that’s on you, not me. I am tired of battling something clearly you don’t fucking understand. I am ending this conversation. I had enough of this. Fuck off.

[Shoichiro]

You've been inconsistent and you're getting upset because I'm pointing it out. That sounds like your issue. I have no problem grasping logical concepts, but I do have a problem understanding faulty arguments like the one you've provided.

[WonderingManII]

The EXPOSED PORTION of her breasts, Her CLEAVAGE, The COLOR and SHAPE of the BIKINI top, HOW well the bikini top FITS her.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Everything except for the bikini 😏.

Ps from the region I am I don't get to see such sightings.

[Anonymous]

If she is facing me, I would probably be looking at her boobs and her face. If she is turned away from me, I would be looking at her butt.

[Shy_Steve]

We are wondering what it looks like underneath, So believe it or not we are actually looking at the bikini top itself.

[Anonymous]

I'm a leg-man, so bikini top is actually not the most important for me.

[Karachan]

When I look at the bikini top, I notice if it matches the bottom.

[jamesgoldman]

Her jewellery because I'm asexual and money don't sleep & business don't stop

[Blackcat1952]

Now I don't do the sex thing dingling... BUT HEY I'M NOT DEAD YET. OF COURSE I'M LOOKING. 🙂 Just LOOKING

[AndrésC64]

I think I accidentally chose cleavage when I actually meant exposed portion.

[Anonymous]

Tbh, the bare parts of her breasts, then how the top fits her/the style

[beefcakebradybatson]

B-O-O-B-S!!!(If you're 100% boy, as Yours Truly can proudly say!!!)

[Anonymous]

They refer to them as a woman’s bust, when you look at some big ones it’s like boom. I like to marvel at the sheer size of them and how they hang.

[Boobslover01]

Exposed portion of boobs and her ass.. Sply if it's a thong...

If nipples are visible or can be felt from bikini top, thtz like heaven...

[tfan1]

All of the above 👍🙂

[13cmlong]

I am looking to see the shape and size of her tits also to see if I can see a nipple print.

[DrPepper12]

Sideboob is 🔥 🔥 🔥