Do you agree a lot of men want a woman so they can bully her?

[Isenennen]

How do you avoid such men?

I heard that they mirror women at first and make her think he’s their soulmate. Then they bring her down and dominate her and this is a need a lot of Guys have to dominate others. Women are an easy trget.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It’s not so they can bully her, the bullying is just a byproduct of their actual goal: using her. And I don’t mean for sex, I mean for care. The higher hygiene standard means she cleans more, if she has his child then she’s going to be primarily in charge of their care so he doesn’t have to do it all, and if they cook? I don’t think a clearer picture can be painted here.


There’s an expectation of being served on the part of men in heterosexual relationships. Previous generations taught them that’s how it works, you’re a half-decent human being with the ability to provide? Great, here’s a wife to cook and clean and look after the kids so all you have to focus on is doing your job and being the fun parent! The bullying, the “my old ball and chain” routine? That’s just them connecting with other men. If they had their way, with full and total power, we’d be looking at a situation not unlike that of an abusive polygamist cult leader who marries any girl he chooses regardless of their age in a virtual harem, but in every heterosexual household on earth. Now, can men be better? Yes, and I’ve met these men, but this isn’t about men, it’s about the standards they’re taught to live by. The worst part is they lack so much awareness and consideration for others that they can’t even begin to tackle this concept mentally because it means making cracks in their insanely fragile egos to question masculinity as they know it.

[Isenennen]

They can sit with their big egos in mommy’s basement and play with a doll. They don’t get the chance to abuse women. Men better up their game and start being clean and presentable. I’ve been with too many ugly men who can’t look presentable, can’t get in shape, can’t offer to cook or clean or take care of a kid… they demand i prove I can cook, that I can look clean and in shape etc etc. and on top of that want me to change my appearance to look like their favorite sticky pages model. Fuck that.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

This has been the relationship model for generations. They can’t handle change.

[Isenennen]

Women are getting smarter and men are upset they can’t get laid but they have nothing to offer. They don’t wanna provide, can't manage to look remotely attractive, have shitty personalities. Women have the choice to not be near them.

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t put out too easily. A lot of guys like that will get discouraged and look for easier prey.

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't agree with that, but there are a lot of garbage people out there. And garbage people are garbage people, regardless of gender or location.

The best way to avoid people like that is to have a strong sense of boundaries.

[bowenw]

There are some men that do that, especially insecure men.

[Isenennen]

There’s so many insecure asswipes

[bowenw]

Yes. Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[Isenennen]

You are welcome kind sir

[bowenw]

😃 😄

[itsannalee]

Focus on your gain, self-care, dressing up, social life, creative things. Receive instead chase, Let others give to you (attention, love, help, compliments).


Love yourself And respect it, no one could hurt you unless you allow it.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, but they do it because it temporarily gives them a sense of superiority and control, which soothes their own internal anxieties.

[Asgard356]

Yeah unfortunately