Why do some men think that all women are out to get them?

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I noticed some men think all women are man-eaters or something. It's often the men who don't even have women looking in their direction like why they so worried about being used by a woman? Most women are just trying to be nice not all of us are evil

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Do they just think it or...

or...

or most women really are out to get them?

Why do some men think that all women are out to get them?

If you really want to understand the answer to your question, make a male dating profile with a decent looking man's pictures. Then do what you have to do to finally get a woman that wants to talk.

You're either going to have to be super hawt (use an ultra chads pictures) just to get the fat chicks with some interest here and there... or rich and you'll know exactly what those women are up to.

Modern women are out to get men. This is no longer before 2015 though before the hoeflation shot out of our solar system with unrealistic expectations.

I mean it's not that hard if you are a Chad, but some average guy with an average job... fat chicks at best. Even the mousy looking average chicks think they deserve a man like me... as if I'd be loyal and faithful, and not make them pay for everything...

... and drive me everywhere because I'm too important (to myself) to drive my own cars.

Grond21 · Accepted Answer

For the same reason that some women think all men are out to get them. Some people look at their own experience and extrapolate that tiny fraction of the world to the whole thing without realizing what they're doing. Or they lean into resentment in bitterness After experiencing very real pain.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Maybe they heard horror stories from friends who actually were in relationships. Or maybe they’re so socially awkward they think no girl would want them except for their money.

BUT: Not all socially awkward guys hate women. Not by a long shot. Most are wonderful people.

saraupstairs · Accepted Answer

The Internet is no reflection of the real world. The very first time I even saw the term "body count" was on this goofy site. Who would even ask you. that?

MisterWack · Answer

They just have a fear instilled by them from people they trust. Could be a female teacher or figure in power of the community who put a negative notion into his mind from a sexist action or verbal abuse / physical abuse… A toxic environment at home, ‘Alpha Bro’ channels telling them women are there to use you, etc.

There are women and men who manipulate, lie, cheat, steal though the vast majority aren’t out to get you. We need to cool it with the angry, divisive, and hateful talks and bring gender lines closer so little boys / little girls don’t think this way about one another.

Lynx122 · Answer

I think it's easy to get into a positive or negative spiral in dating. You can't see it because you're just looking for a good partner but if you're not popular in highschool it's extremely difficult as a young man to gain experience or live up to what women expect and at the same time they have a strong sex drive and in highschool everybody is judging other people based on popularity and stuff. It feels like there are a lot of forces pushing and pulling you from all sides, it feels like you're about to get crushed or explode :).

Things can get better over time but when you're in it, that's your life and you've never experienced anything else.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/lcmDvh-bt2c

You can hear in Eminems early work what I'm talking about. But he actually had a girlfriend and he had talent. Now imagine you can't get a girlfriend and you don't know what you want to do with your life.

I'm not saying this justifies anything but a lot of people are going through this and nobody cares. The only time anybody cares about a young man who is struggling is when they're causing a problem for other people or when they want to take advantage of them like sending them to war to die. There are men who will take young men under their wing but not everyone can find someone like that.

I'm just trying to explain the situation the perspective of someone who feels like this. I hope it can answer your question a bit :)

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

I don't think you're evil or man eaters it's just that some men actually do have feelings besides anger and rage and we do hurt from past events. Getting rejected by women hurts a lot and all that rejection from high school and life in general builds up. They remember the pretty girl who lured them in with the thought that they really did like them only to be betrayed and used for kicks, because their friends thought it would be fun. The pain never goes away. They learn to never trust you again. Guys like that see that you really don't want guys who are good guys who go to college and bust their asses at work and treat women with respect, you want the a$$hole, with no real goals in life except to get laid, spend a lot of time in jail and prison and have crap jobs and will usually leave you once they get what they want. You taught guys like that they are unwanted and unworthy of you. Women are taught men only one thing: sex. Men learn that women only want one thing too: money. I'm 40 I don't want to be with anyone ever due to my parents marriage, the girl who lured me in, the pain of rejection, the pointless stress of relationships and the therapist who wanted to be with me but lied to me just like the girl who lured me in. I don't hate women I just don't trust you at all. It's not those guys who are unworthy of you , it's you who are unworthy of them.

KennethNoisewater · Answer

I can only speak for myself on this. I have been cheated on in 95% of my relationships with women. I don’t necessarily think women are “out to get me” but I have learned that if you avoid most all interactions with them, they don’t get the chance to crush me. I’m positive I have passed up some great opportunities with women but it’s just not worth it to me anymore. I enjoy being selfish with my time now. I don’t want to feel obligated to come in from my shop at a certain time. I don’t want to go visit families that I don’t give a shit about on the holidays. I like buying dumb shit without fear of being yelled at when I get home. I want to be guilt free if I just want to get a little stoned and jerk off.

For me at least I like doing what I want, when I want.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Some women think all men are out to get them.

Same thing. Some men are bad and look to take advantage of women. Some women are bad and seek to take advantage of men. It's scary enough for people to be guarded, and some people take that to an extreme.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Why would be they so worried about being used by a woman? That answer is located in their previous experiences with women. In how they interacted, what they internalized during upbringing, in a country, in a city, at school, in a job, in their relationships, online, offline etc.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

No idea.

I have the opposite problem, sometimes I think a woman is just being nice or polite to me while my wife claims she was hitting me and I am too dense to notice.

Ironically enough though the only woman who really "not nice" to me (not going to say evil) was one whom I trusted the most.

slippery2000 · Answer

Men and women seem to be at odds right now in society. Battle of the sexes so to speak. Feminism, equal rights, mens mental health needs being downplayed or overlooked or seen as not being a serious issue... im just saying we should all play nice with one another so we don't end up resorting back to our primitive roles or throw our hands up on both ends and say screw it. Bad enough we are both losing soldiers in our sex pools to individuals who can magically change their roles and genders at the snap of a finger and a bottle of hair dye... 😆

KrakenAttackin · Answer

We don't think women ar "out to get us", but we do know that women never love a man the way a man loves a woman. Women flake so easily and so often, and for the most trivial reasons. If the man was fool enough to get married, her flakiness will result in his slavery.

ClassicDropout · Answer

Its the very vocal minority of women that will go out of their way to interact negatively with men. I used to think that way, but I'm more or less over it. Every time I get an out of pocket response or hate comment on social media it brings me back slightly tho

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Because most women in modern society SUCK!!! And not in a good way. Like they are actually bad. Can say the same for men, not disputing that. But on average a man will do anything… and I mean ANYTHING for his woman. To make her happy, men have conformed into weaker parts of themselves just to appease women. And that’s the most pathetic part about it. Men are so worried about being alone they would give up what makes them men to have a female. It’s sad. Women have agendas that they want to use a man mainly for his resources. Because they feel men want women only for their bodies. When the majority of men don’t even think that way.

It’s crazy how much more romantic men are in society than women. Yet women complain the most about dating but put it less than a fraction of the effort.

AGAM1 · Answer

I think times have changes and women can be very cruel today. Society has told most women to be tough bad asses and they walk all over men and men are taught to be soft and now men are weak. We have our roles reversed and it’s causing chaos. Men are are suppose to be strong and women softer. We all just need balance.

I can tell you from first hand experience I had dared some women that were way to manly and needed to be softer. One of them wanted me to be a cuck like come on.. I know some people are into that stuff but it’s wrong, and causes problems.

Yannae · Answer

Oh Apple. It makes me so happy to see some non generalizing going on.

Maybe they have surrounded themselves with only bad women to the point that this is all they know. The bad.

Maybe it was only one bad woman and he is still stuck up on that past, clouding his judgment in the present.

Maybe they interact only with people from the former two categories, consume content focused on putting bad women in the spotlight.

matchrestore · Answer

I've rarely felt like a woman was out to get me. I tend to think most people are good by default, women included.

TCredo · Answer

Good question - best guess is they were always insecure and immature - so if they ever got burned or hurt or had a bad experience etc, then their insecurity intensifies to being resentful and feeling like it's them against the world - as their immaturity takes over. Sad state of being for sure and I'm thankful to not be like that :)

Unit1 · Answer

Women? 🤗🤗🤗💕❤

jahaims · Answer

Because they aren't mature enough to be in a healthy relationship so they are only used to toxic behavior. Or the stereotypical a "nice guy" aka the simp that doesn't know he is a simp falls in love with someone with daddy issues. So you have the anxious attachment from the simp accepting toxic behavior from the avoidant attachment aka someone with "daddy issues". Then they end up thinking all women are like that because they aren't introspective enough to realize they are choosing poor partners because they have unhealed trauma.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

They’re perspective is based on their projection. They believe women who stand firmly on morals, boundaries, and independence/know their worth are going to “use” them because the majority have used women and depleted their energy.

Mangospacho · Answer

Yeah, the manosphere youtube channels don’t help either. They go out of their way to convince guys that every single woman on the planet are greedy sociopaths.

Holsen · Answer

Well they may over cautious like they might have had a bad experience before or are simply afraid to even have the chance to have a bad experience so it’s not that weird but would say they should just relax and let it flow like a girl can’t use you if you don’t want to be used and we are human beings so we may make mistakes but we shouldn’t be scared to make mistakes plus as you said not all girls are after you so yeah they should be more realistic

RingOfFire · Answer

"Why do some men think that all women are out to get them?" You mean they're not? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Hhgfhh · Answer

I have women look in my direction from time and to time and have thought like this before.

Look, it’s not uncommon for women to monkey branch between men, use you for money. Millions of women have rinsed men in divorce courts. Women can be great to you but also mess your whole life up.

If a guy doesn’t get girls and he’s a good overall person, I see why they get resentful and believe women are evil. I mean you often hear of women with unrealistic expectations that are bestowed upon men.

In the end I let go of all that belief that women are evil etc… who gives a fuck about them and I don’t mean that in a mean way. But who gives a fuck. Life’s too short

Still-alive · Answer

Propaganda. Thats what they’ve been told by people with an agenda

McLlovin · Answer

Because i want you, and i want you to know that i want you.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Both men and women can be evil. I see lots of women trying to get poor men’s attention to use it for money. You just don’t know.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Let's see maybe it's because the law favors women and gives them every avenue to hurt men on a whim if they choose to while men can't do shit? Having been falsely accused and my reputation destroyed enough to drop out of college, which I'm pretty sure I'm not the only man whose dealt with something similar because of a woman, I don't blame men at all for thinking women are evil. Not that you'd sympathize let alone be able to understand. Women don't consider themselves to be evil. No one does.

NathanDavis · Answer

it's hilarious how true that is... kind of sad as well, though... lol

DrPepper12 · Answer

They're angry and twisted over problems and thoughts of their own making. They LIKE the victimhood status, elaborate plans that remain just that, discord feedback loop, etc, etc,

I_am_a_human · Answer

Some men may think that all women are out to get them, because all of the women they have interacted with so far, have been out to get him.  You may think most women are just trying to be nice because out of all your interactions with women, most of them have been trying to be nice. But, you haven't met most/all women (billions), neither has he. Both of you have made generalizations (based on your experience).

ggrurrllz · Answer

SOME women are scum. as a whole, women are cool. but very hot women tend to be shitty human beings.

scott04sa22 · Answer

Most of them been hurt badly from bad relationships

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

They have been hurt by one so much that it scarred them. Or multiple screw overs

Agape93 · Answer

Because women don't want em or they got screwed by one.

WonderingManII · Answer

It is hard for me to trust people. Women are hard to trust because they change their minds. I have had some turn on me for no apparent reason.

MemeSupreme · Answer

we're worried about men using us too so it's not that surprising lol FOR good reason bc anyone should be cautious

i don't mean be paranoid and sexist but just look out for red flags and make sure they're good people

grega239 · Answer

Maybe they have bad experiences and have become a bit paranoid. Maybe they think women only want to use them because thats the only time women speak to them.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I think I've never met such a man... how to recognize them?

slatyb · Answer

They have no social skills, feel entitled to a woman of their choosing, aren't able to attract a partner, and blame women.

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

Based on my observation of other women, men have a healthy fear of us. Women are hypocritical, confused, confusing, lack emotional control and basic logic. What I am saying in short

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

They don't. It's only the bitter morons on the manosphere pushing such BS.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

No idea. Most of the women I know/have met have been cool

DryGermanGuy · Answer

I am glad to have never met such men. 🤔

msc545 · Answer

Because many women ARE out to get their money and property and children.

AviatorTom · Answer

You mean they're not?

Joshua_H_1010011001 · Answer

Because it's true...  Run away!!! 🤣☠️

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s a secret war nowadays women want total control if not, they declare war on men

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Same reason they think all the blacks, the gays, and the whole woke diaspora are out to get them. You might be safe though. You’re branded, breeding stock, right?

pinconon · Answer

is this really happening or is this just an exaggeration?

genericname85 · Answer

tbh if you're a woman that is nice to men, they already think you're flirting, cause that's such a rare thing xD

Petermorgan343434 · Answer

Same argument could be used against men. Not everyone is evil, but it is human nature for us to let past traumas and malfeasances shape our views of each other and the opposite sex

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

It is because women have a entire complete system tailored to pop a whip on and control men a controlled system that falls under the definition of tyranny.

Anpu23 · Answer

It's like a kid who flinches from a raised hand. Knee jerk reaction to past abuse.

Chthou95 · Answer

A man who's successful with women could still develop this worry out of bad experiences. You don't have to be bad with women to experience shitty things from the opposite sex

LiamJHayden · Answer

They generalize based upon their personal experience and what they hear from others.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

That is true, being evil ain't gender related miss apple

Tomisworthless · Answer

Dont need to be a looker to know women suck. I experience only the evil cruel side to the human female so im very aware

Viking_Girl19 · Answer

Just male ego and self-love

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

YEARS OF BAD EXPERIENCES

David5668 · Answer

Toxic male paranoia and insecurities

clampfan101 · Answer

Too much ego rots your brain. 🙄

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