Why do some men think women only want them once they’re taken?

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I mean seriously I hear see this myth , and I'm really confused about it and I met many women at times when I was single and it never happenedto me that way, so why these guys think that way?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because unfortunately some of it is true , I can’t speak for everyone but with my experiences with taken girls’ and married ones , most of them cheat , I ended up on bed with some of them because they lied to me and said they were single when really they aren’t , Most people on dating apps aren’t single either , so unfortunately there are a lot of selfish people on this planet that cheat on their partners’ why a lot of relationships today do not make it the long haul because people are selfish and cheat left and right. Most girls’ I meet today are taken already that lie to me or don’t lie to me but still want sex and act like it’s not a big deal , cuz to them it’s just sex.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

The evidence is they do, at least to a minor degree.

There is a classic experiment where women are asked to rate men's attractiveness. The rating is higher if the women are given to understand they are taken as opposed to being single.

Some women also get a kick out of getting a desire response out of men who are taken. If the taken guy seems to like them it is a higher compliment than if a single guys does.

The taken guy is presumably getting sex so the woman is more desirable than his current girl. With the single guy he probably wants sex with any girl. So the taken guy's interest is a higher compliment

MontBlanc · Accepted Answer

I think sometimes it’s less about women wanting someone who is taken, and more about perception.

When a man is in a relationship, he may appear more confident, relaxed, or emotionally stable.

That can naturally make him seem more attractive to others.

It’s not necessarily that people want what’s “taken,” but that confidence and security can change how someone is perceived.

Attraction can sometimes be influenced by those subtle shifts.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't know of anyone who thinks this way. When I'm available, I'm available and when I'm not, I'm not. It's the same way with everyone I know.

TediumIsTheWorstPain · Answer

Because it's true. Social scientists even have a name for this phenomenon. It's called "mate choice copying." Wikipedia has a nice long article about it.

"Mate choice copying has been found in a wide variety of different species, including (but not limited to): invertebrates, like the common fruit fly (Drosophila melanogaster);[5][6] fish, such as guppies (Poecilia reticulata)[7] and ocellated wrasse;[1] birds, like the black grouse;[8] and mammals, such as the Norway rat (Rattus norvegicus)[9] and humans.[10] Most studies have focused on females, but male mate copying has been also found in sailfin mollies (Poecilia latipinna)[11] and humans.[10]"

Note where the passage above says, "... and humans."

Calling this a myth is wildly inaccurate. You personally may not have seen or experienced this, but it's out there.

Cyfris · Answer

They think it because it is true.. They did a study where they showed a picture of a man to a bunch of women and had them rate his attractiveness, they then showed the same picture of a "married" man to women and he rated 2 points higher on average levels of attractivness to women because of the word married.. If he's good enough for her he's good enough for me something like that

HawkPerception · Answer

While there are many women who don't want men that are taken, the statement is still partly true. Women want men who are desired by many. They want to feel like they've won something that many others want. Men are the opposite. We don't care if everyone in the world desires a woman. If anything, the more attention a woman receives from others, the less men are attracted. We don't want to have to fight for a woman. We want them to desire us as much as we desire them. Simple as that.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I spent 15 years single

About year in which I dated 2 women

Tried dating apps for a year

And have been single having quit the game for 9: years

Only one of those times was I approached by other women who I politely turned down

OneViewpoint · Answer

I've never really seen this firsthand. I'm sure there could be female personalities like this. But it must be fairly rare. I get a LOT more attention as a divorced guy than I did as a married guy.

qwerty2469 · Answer

Because it's absolutely true. I have a twin brother. We look exactly the same. We act almost exactly the same. When I got married first out of all my friends we would go out, as all young men do. I would have all of the girls attention. I'm not even handsome. My literal identical twin had none. I gave him my wedding ring to wear and it all switched.

jshm2 · Answer

Because there is a grain of truth to it. Most people on dating apps ARE in a relationship already. Taken men have experience, and that is what such women crave.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Speaking personally, because that's the ONLY TIME other women are interested in me!! They ALWAYS want what someone else has even though they wouldn't even THINK of touching when they had the chance to take it!!

Jcbvirgo · Answer

This happened to me many times over and still sometimes now. Even women who always said I was "Just a friend" or "Like a brother" to them would switch up and either get flirty or insanely jealous when I got a girlfriend. I would have to cut them off at some point.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Because once you're taken the amount of women coming after you is crazy. It's like they can just sense they you're happy and content and want to take that away from you 😭

ammar12343 · Answer

I’m married and get a lot more attention than when I wasn’t. I was essentially vetted by a successful and attractive women to others. It’s biology.

demonics · Answer

Why ask us when you can ask women thems... ah nevermind, they'll never admit that shit.

Alia_Czechgirl · Answer

If a man doesn't interest me and doesn't attract me when he's dressed, he can take off his clothes and skin and nothing will change :-)))

exitseven · Answer

I was hit on very soon after I got married by 3 different girls. One of them took the time to track me down through a credit card receipt

blackeagle007 · Answer

Taken men are more relaxed. Plus women sees them value being they are with another woman

Anonymous · Answer

I never thought that... I was never taken, and no girl ever showed any interest in me (at least no girl that I actually like).

Anonymous · Answer

Because believe it or not there are women like this. I used to work with one.

V4valiant · Answer

It's the truth. It's proof that we're worth having.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Idiots breed in large numbers.

Kelly6 · Answer

@aaron-98 All from porn

LC75LC71 · Answer

Because they are ridiculous and correct!

Sherloque95 · Answer

I think this is a real thing

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