How do I kind of avoid a coworker I’m attracted to after finding out my coworker also likes him… ?

[Anonymous]

I kind of avoided him today and I think he noticed and matched my energy. .. but I think she’s also attracted to him so

[aaron13547]

What's the purpose of avoiding them? Why do you like them? Why do you think you need to avoid them because you like them? Why does it matter someone else likes them and why does that make you want to avoid them? What energy do you want to give and get? Do you want the guy to like you? Do you want the coworker to like the guy? Why does that matter? How do you think anyone can answer these questions when you haven't thought of them yourself?

[Asker]

I just feel like it lessens the blow of rejection and disappointment

[aaron13547]

Makes sense. But it doesn't make you feel good it makes you feel bad less... when you find something meant for you it makes you feel "more better" not less bad. I know more better isn't a thing but work with me here 🙂

[aaron13547]

You dodged a bullet, let it be. Trying to Hold on something not meant for you only causes pain.

[Asker]

He seems shy as well even though he’s a sports announcer I kind of avoided him today and he seemed to notice and match my energy lol

[aaron13547]

And how do you want to see that. You lol to me. But is this avoiding each other suppose to be a friendly flirty game or like a cold shoulder like you want to forget he exists. I dont understand your intentions and I'm more aware then the average man. How can he? Maybe start this thought process over again. I'm not sure how to help

[Asker]

Like he doesn’t exist ig

[Danny_dan92]

Simple. Don’t shit where you eat.

[Asker]

I agree

[Danny_dan92]

Yes. So just go to work, focus on your tasks, clock out. Go home.

You aren’t there to find dick, you aren’t there to find love. (Unless you’re a pornstar)

You’re there to work and get paid to do so

[Anonymous]

If you like him go for it