Guys, question?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy and I caught him staring at me and we held eye contact just looking at each other for 3-5 seconds and then he slowly looked down at the floor after and got on his phone, what does this mean?

[FunkyMonkee]

He probably likes you but is not sure if he should take the chance to talk to you. Sometimes, when a guy likes a girl, he's just too shy to go after her, like this, and needs a little push.

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[Asker]

Okay I have a follow up to add a couple days before I was in the hallway with my friend and he was coming back to our class and he knocked on the door and turned around and looked at me and then he went in the class came back out and opened the door and looked right at me and then after he went in the class and I knocked on the classroom door and he leaned forward and stared at me the whole time talking to our teacher. And another time he was standing rallying to our teacher and his friends were sitting down and I was looking at him and he was talking to his friends while standing next to the teacher and he was smiling and turned his head around and looked at me and we both quickly looked away. My friend that knows all his friends and him knows I think he’s cute. Would he be doing all this because I said he’s cute if he knew? And also is him holding eye contact with me showing me that he’s interested back, if he know I said he’s cute?

[FunkyMonkee]

I guess that's possible.
Do you two have lunch at the same time? If so, next time you go to lunch, go over and ask if you can sit with him.
Do you both live near each other? If so, and you have to walk part way home, ask if you can walk with him. Or, if he can walk YOU home.
I'm not 100% sure of how it is, these days but, when I was about your age, if a guy saw a REALLY pretty girl, most often, he'd figure that there's no point in asking her out or anything of the sort because, for as beautiful as she is, she GOT to have at LEAST ONE boyfriend, already with several more lined up to take their turn, if she ever drops the one (s) she's with.
Another thing they'd think is that she's so pretty she'd NEVER pick ME to be her boyfriend!! So, there's no point in even IMAGINING we could be together!
And, most often, it's those really pretty girls that end up being alone, thinking they're ugly BECAUSE boys think that way! They never seem to realize what's really going on. So, it's kinda up to the girl to make the first move, sometimes.
I know girls seem to like guys with the confidence to just walk right up and ask them for a date but, I'd think it's more likely than not that those are the kinds of guys that mistreat girls and don't appreciate what they have in you. The shy boys seem to be the ones that are nice to you and treat you well and respect you and your wishes. I suspect that, if I was a girl, I'd give the shy boys first crack.
Good luck, hun! Now, GO GET HIM, TIGER!! RRRROOOOWWWRRRR!!!

[Asker]

Okay so I have a question, would it seem like I’m chasing If we’re by the door standing next to each other and at the right time I say hi. Also if next class I walk passed his desk to talk to the teacher since his desk is by the teacher. I don’t want to seem to eagerly or like a pick me or like I’m chasing him. Also when we held eye contact he had his whole body facing me like he went around the crowded door to toward facing me

[Asker]

He’s really loud and talkative people really like him and say he’s personable I’ve heard

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't think so. Did you ever see the stop-motion animated t. v. special, "Rudolph, The Red-Nosed Reindeer" from 1962? About 10:00 in, the young deer are taking flying lessons and a fawn comes over to Rudolph and makes friends with him rather quickly but, she's NOT chasing him. She just likes him and takes the chance to meet him.
When I was in college, I was going from one building to another for a class and stopped in front of the gym long enough to tie my shoe. Just after I sat down, this GORGEOUS blonde with a HUGE smile on her face came towards me, walked right up to me, introduced herself and said that she'd seen me around in the school, thought I was a really neat guy and wanted to meet me! As much as I would've loved to, we never became lovers but were the best of friends for a good while after that.
There's a woman here that I met over a year ago and she said she'd been chasing me for a week or so and we got to be good friends. She's married and has a few kids so, she was just looking to make friends and we hit it off pretty nicely, together. She likes the way I play with words.
In `91, I got talked into playing drums for some band from New Orleans so, after we finished our set, I had to wait for them to get paid before they could drive me and my drums back to my singer's house. While waiting, these two women showed up and were standing in front of me. One noticed me behind her and turned to apologize for blocking my view. I just gestured that she wasn't blocking me, I wasn't paying attention the 2nd band and she liked that! She and her girlfriend sat and started talking with me. About a month later, she & I were lovers! Stayed that way for a decade!! Again, she wasn't chasing, she just felt like talking to me and our chat became more, over time.
Go right ahead and try to meet up with him. The worst he can do is say, "No.".

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't think he'll think you're chasing him just because you walked by but, from personal experience, boys get REAL excited and feel EXTREMELY lucky when they find out a girl likes them!! So, I seriously doubt he'll think you're chasing him!
I think he likes you!! Strike while the iron is hot or some other girl takes him away from you!! Ask him to help you with something you're working on in the same class. What is it, math? Ask him to help you figure out a problem. Get your foot in the door! ;-)
Okay, then, maybe he'll be really easy for YOU to meet and talk to, too!!

[Asker]

okay so it would be fine at the appropriate moment to say hi if we were next to each other and make eye contact! I don't want to chase him off but want to break the ice because I seriously like him and I agree I think he's interested

[FunkyMonkee]

Oh, sure. No problem. I'd bet that, if you sat with him and accidentally on purpose touched the side of his knee with yours, he'd prefer to leave his there instead of pulling away.
Just start small, "Can you help me with a math problem?", "Would you like to study together?", discuss your likes and dislikes of a teacher you both have. "What kind of music do you like?" "Did you see the new (whatever) movie?" Something that'll put you both on common ground. I'll bet if you just went up to him before a class and said, "Can I sit with you at lunch, today?" He'd get a BIG thrill out of that and count the seconds `til it actually happened!
I'm not quite sure how it is with girls but, with guys, having a girl show interest in you is a HUGE deal! It's like winning a billion dollar lottery. First off, you've got all your guy friends telling you you're stupid or ugly so, you've already got a low self esteem. To have a girl contradict that is like wearing a huge badge of honour!!
I know that, for some reason, girls tend to think they're fat and ugly, mostly because commercials and magazine ads tell you so to get you to buy their stuff! But, 99% of the time, girls are FAR from ugly or fat!! Remember the blonde I told you about? She thought shew was fat & ugly!! In the meantime, she could've been twin sisters with Kim Cattrall, Debbie Harry or Marylin Monroe!! Absolutely GORGEOUS! Nearly every guy on campus wanted her!! Okay, she had a TINY bit of "puppy fat" on her (like, MAYBE an extra10 lbs.) but it only made her cuter and sexier!!
From the sounds of it, you should have no problem at all getting him. Just DON'T keep putting it off!! As the saying goes, "If you snooze, you lose!" Start tomorrow (Monday). Good luck!

[Asker]

OMG HE WOULD BE TLAKING IN CLASS AND MY FRIENDS AND I AND THE CLASS WERE LOOKING AT HIM AND HE LOOKED AT ME AND THEN AGIAN HE WAS TALKING IN CLASS I LOOKED AT HIM HE LOOKED AT ME AND THEN WE HELD EYE CONTACT I GAVE HIM A BIG SMILE AND SMILED BIG AND THEN QUICKLY LOOKED AT HIS FRIEND AND I LOOKED AWAY TOO

[FunkyMonkee]

Are sparks flying? Kinda sounds like you're both hitting it off! Lemmie know how it goes.

[Anonymous]

I believe I act differently than most guys, but that is how I used to act around a girl I had a crippling crush on.

[Asker]

Also a couple days before I was in the hallway with my friend and he was coming back to our class and he knocked on the door and turned around and looked at me and then he went in the class came back out and opened the door and looked right at me and then after he went in the class and I knocked on the classroom door and he leaned forward and stared at me the whole time talking to our teacher. And another time he was standing rallying to our teacher and his friends were sitting down and I was looking at him and he was talking to his friends while standing next to the teacher and he was smiling and turned his head around and looked at me and we both quickly looked away.

[_Maya_]

It is likely that he was perhaps being polite when your eyes met. That could be the reason he smiled. The rest of what you describe is typical human interaction. Once you had a friendly smile at each other you both went back to your own business. Smiling at someone is very common when you look at each other. It is a normal way for two people to silently be polite. I would not take this to mean anything deeper than that to be honest. I am sure that you smile at people all the time and perhaps with not even knowing it because it is a normal thing to do. It is really just being friendly and pleasant. That is most likely what is the case here. Nothing more or nothing less.

[Alex-Snow]

He may find you attractive or hot. How well do you know him?

[Asker]

I’m new to the school but we have a class together

[Alex-Snow]

Maybe follow him on socials or get to know him better if you like him or find him attractive. You cn always ask him out also? Message me if u want to talk more about it or want more options.

[RedInnocent69]

He likes you and he’s embarrassed. Go up to him and start talking

[Asker]

Okay I have a follow up to add a couple days before I was in the hallway with my friend and he was coming back to our class and he knocked on the door and turned around and looked at me and then he went in the class came back out and opened the door and looked right at me and then after he went in the class and I knocked on the classroom door and he leaned forward and stared at me the whole time talking to our teacher. And another time he was standing rallying to our teacher and his friends were sitting down and I was looking at him and he was talking to his friends while standing next to the teacher and he was smiling and turned his head around and looked at me and we both quickly looked away. My friend that knows all his friends and him knows I think he’s cute. Would he be doing all this because I said he’s cute if he knew? And also is him holding eye contact with me showing me that he’s interested back, if he know I said he’s cute?

[RedInnocent69]

Honestly, it doesn’t get more obvious. Just go talk to him already…

[Asker]

Okay so I have a question, would it seem like I’m chasing If we’re by the door standing next to each other and at the right time I say hi. Also if next class I walk passed his desk to talk to the teacher since his desk is by the teacher. I don’t want to seem to eagerly or like a pick me or like I’m chasing him. Also when we held eye contact he had his whole body facing me like he went around the crowded door to toward facing me

[Asker]

He’s really loud and talkative people really like him and say he’s personable I’ve heard

[RedInnocent69]

Sorry, I don’t think I can talk to you. Too much under age drama