My roommate doesn’t care about me but I still like him?

[Anonymous]

I like my roommate but I know he doesn’t like me at all😭 we have lessons at uni that ends at 10pm and other day at 7:40pm. And I have to go back home at night alone. I asked him to walk with me cause we live in same place and have same schedule. But he rides bike and says I walk too slow and he doesn’t want to wait me. And when I comeback home alone at night only thing he does is watching YouTube videos or play dota. I hurts me really badly, that he doesn’t even care about my life and can’t do even little things for me like walking to the same apartment after same lessons. Before moving in to apartment I texted him a lot about how I exited that we are gonna do many things together as roommates and he texted me in completely different manner. But in real live he only wanted to find roommate to pay less and we doesn’t communicate at all. I feel so lonely in different country (we are from same country) and I want to move out to not feel bad everytime but financially I can’t afford it and still can’t find new roommates.
It hurts me really deeply that I know he literally doesn’t care about me but I still have feelings 🥀

Updates

10 mo

I wanted to ask how to stop care about him if he doesn’t care about me

[HollyK21]

Getting over him right now would be pretty hard since you live together, so until you can move out I’d say to just work on changing your perspective. I think going into the situation with this expectation that you were gonna be good friends who would do a lot together was very one-sided, and you have to understand that not everyone is interested in that. Yes, finding a roommate was about the money, but that’s how it is for almost anyone seeking a roommate in this country. People don’t typically sign up for that because they’re seeking new friends.


In any case, I really don’t think this is a situation for you to be so hurt over. Mainly because your own expectations are what’s hurting you. For example, him not wanting to walk you home every night — you should have just assumed he’d want to do that simply because you have the same schedule. He just wants to do his own thing. I think you’ll start feeling a lot better once you stop making this guy not being interested such a deeply hurtful situation. None of this has to hurt.

[Screenwriter]

Listen to what you're describing about him. "He only wanted a roommate so he would pay less rent." That was and is his sole purpose for having you as a roommate.

He does not want to assume any responsibilities for you or do anything with you. He doesn't want to walk you home or hang around you. You are not his friend. He does not want to be friends with you.

Keep telling yourself these truths. It doesn't matter that he's from your country. He doesn't want to associate with you.

Keep repeating these facts. You can start to look for another place to live, but right now you have to live where you are.

Don't ask this guy for anything. He's not willing to give anything.

If you need someone to walk you home, ask someone in your class who might live near you, or who can drop you home. And keep looking for an alternate living space. Good luck.

[Asker]

«He doesn’t want to associate with you» omg😭😭😭 that is true actually 🥀🥲 I just don’t want to admit it🥀

[Screenwriter]

You just have to get over this yearning for someone from home being a friend. It's natural and normal. But in this case, will only cause you grief. Look for a new place to live! Good luck!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Aww poor little anon 😂

Well just find someone else that might find interest in your time and effort, he can just be your roommate and nothing more and you can find love elsewhere

[In_Trance]

Not sure what you're asking here

[Asker]

I don't know I just shared about my feelings 😭🥀 don’t know what to do in situations like this either and how to not feel bad

[In_Trance]

If he doesn't care about you, you need to distance yourself from him and move on and find what you really want