Why are people trying to tell me how I should be living my life at work?

[Anonymous]

There are some coworkers that will tell me how I should be living my life and what I should do, for instance they know I don’t party and drink why tell me I should try or I can continue I don’t go and tell people what they need to do with there life

[Genie23]

I don't know how old are you, but I've been there. I know people can be really pushy. You just nave to find better company to spend time with. Just talk to these people regarding work and ignore them rest of the time. No one should tell you what to do. It's okay if sometimes parents do that because they want to look out for you, but not okay if others do that. Why they do that? Some people are controlling, some are nosy and then there are some people who can't tolerate anyone doing better than them in life, so they try to ruin that by manipulating you into you need to change yourself. 🤷‍♀️

Oh and you asked me about him. I'll just answer here instead. I wouldn't trust him if I were you. In fact, I wouldn't trust any blue account or pink account (because many pink accounts are actually guys pretending to be girls) who ask you to follow and DM or ask you to deanonymize yourself. Simply because they want to talk about something really inappropriate or send you unsolicited pictures. I've seen that guy post usually in sexuality topic, so I'm glad you posted this question anonymously. That way, he can't connect with you.

[Genie23]

Lmao. He blocked me. If you're rewarding this, Got frustrated, huh? I’ve seen your posts throughout the years, and I know this is your second account. I've seen you constantly post about sex. You said you were trying to make sure she's safe. She chose to post anonymously. She kept asking you why you couldn’t just reply here, and instead of respecting that, you kept insisting she should DM you. That’s not protecting someone — that’s pushing someone to do what she is clearly uncomfortable with. Everyone else gave their opinions publicly without asking for DMs. So, don’t give me that crap- I know exactly what you were trying to do.

[Genie23]

Reading this*

[Asker]

So he a perv how old is he Anyways?

[Genie23]

Yeah, he is. That's why he got pissed and told me to mind my business and tried to cover up by saying he was trying to keep you "safe"

Frankly, I have no idea how old is he, but I remember him massaging me 8 or 10 years ago on GaG. He tried to get me to send him pictures, and even then his profile said he's 30 if I remember correctly. So, I'm guessing he's around 40 (maybe more or less, who knows?), and he's also a catfish. I've seen that picture for years.

[Asker]

Ohhh so for all we know it may be some old Indian perv lol

[Asker]

That’s disgusting 🤮

[Genie23]

Lol.

[On_cloud_wine]

Maybe keep your life outside of work private. Are you complaining about what you wish you could be doing? That’s why they say stuff like “it’s not too late to start” .. people I know who are sober are sober because it’s their lifestyle. No one can make them feel ashamed or would ever give them advice to be otherwise because they’re confident and happy with whom they are.

maybe it’s the vibe you give off. Have standards.

[Asker]

No I don’t be complaining they just nosy but yes you right maybe I need to be more private when it comes to life inside work

[BriamG22]

I think it's pretty clear they shouldn't be commenting on how you should live your life. That's pretty rude and; frankly, unprofessional... You should really communicate to them that you don't appreciate that 'gesture' of theirs but of course with a level of tactfulness.

With the example of drinking, I'd like to give them the benefit of the doubt here and say they just simply want you to join them in a social activity. But; as I'm sure you already do, you can always say no. I don't think this scenario in particular has any malice behind it.

As to why they do this though, it could be a multitude of reasons. Perhaps they feel that your friendship is close enough where they can freely comment on your life choices. Perhaps they care about you and voice suggestions they believe might be beneficial to you.

I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt here; based on the fact that they're constantly inviting you to join them in a social gathering, it would seem that they like and care about you. So I'd assume whatever it is that they're doing is coming from a good place.

[Anonymous]

people here tell me how I should live my life. I'd kindly tell them to fuck off

[Asker]

Right for real why people gotta be like that

[Opinion Owner]

because people on the internet and in your life are there to uphold the status quo

[Asker]

I’m saying why don’t they worry about there own life

[LiamS95]

It's really none of they're business. and you should let them know that!

[Asker]

But why like why?

[LiamS95]

They're sticking their noses into your life and trying to get you to do things that can ruin your health such as drinking alcohol and partying can lead to other things.

[Asker]

Why you think they want me to do that all

[Asker]

I can’t dm it won’t let me

[Asker]

But just tell me. On here

[Asker]

You don’t want to write on here

[LiamS95]

No , I don't want to risk embarrassing you in public.

[Genie23]

She's under 18. She's a minor yet you're asking her to DM you because you don't want to ask her something inappropriate and don't get reported? Let me share something with you- if you message her, not only all your messages will be reviewed and deleted by the admins and all those messages will be deleted. Your account will also most likely get deleted by the admins.

[Genie23]

@DryGermanGuy whar do you think?

[Genie23]

What*

[DryGermanGuy]

@LiamS95
Yeah, better avoid that minefield.

[Asker]

@Genie23 oh is he one of those pervs?

[qwerty2469]

Probably because they are wiser, older, amd smarter than you and you are losing at life. They mean well.

[BruceWayne32123]

Politely tell them to fuck off

[Asker]

But why tho

[BruceWayne32123]

They are getting into your personal life for no reason at the work place

[Asker]

Yea why do people do that

[BruceWayne32123]

I don’t know. But they should not

[Asker]

Yea, I know right very disrespectful

[Asker]

They were trying to tell me I need to move out eventually and live on my own and be independent

[Anonymous]

They are just being rude.

[Asker]

Why’s that?

[Opinion Owner]

I guess they have no manners.

[Asker]

I mean but why are they so nosy

[Opinion Owner]

I suppose they have nothing better to do in their life.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Asker]

Or they think their life is better than mine

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly.
You're welcome.