Why would a guy do absolutely nothing if he "wanted" you?

[Anonymous]

I doubt he's shy. I don't know whats going on in his mind

[Amy_Mi]

Because wanting isn’t the same as committing.

A man who truly wants you shows it, consistently, deliberately, without excuses.

Saying it isn’t enough, energy and action prove intention.

Doing nothing is the ultimate answer he doesn’t actually want you, he wants the idea of you.

Queens don’t chase illusions, they recognize when words are cheap and presence is absent.

Wanting is easy.

Showing up is rare.

And only the rare deserves your energy.

[Asker]

Beautifully said thank you

[jazzy34]

“ A man may do nothing if he "wants" you due to a variety of reasons, such as a lack of genuine long-term interest, fear of commitment or rejection, emotional unavailability, or a desire to keep you as an option without putting in effort. His inconsistent behavior can also stem from being involved with someone else or not seeing the relationship fitting into his future plans. ”(Source: Google)

[Anonymous]

Yes.

At least it may APPEAR like he's doing absolutely nothing to YOU. Doesn't mean he's doing nothing. It just means you're not noticing anything he's doing because he's being very subtle and you're oblivious.

[slatyb]

Why do you think he wants you? If you really want to know, invite him to coffee or lunch or whatever. That's how adults show interest, and find out if it's returned.

[Nikki1989]

Many men are lazy in that department. They expect the woman to grovel at their feet and do all the work.

Read the anon comment, which proves my point.

[Anonymous]

It's possible he isn't sure about whether you like him or not. He could be inexperienced and get uncharacteristically nervous around you.

[Anonymous]

No balls. He looks like a man but isn’t one

[ChicoFromThe305]

Maybe he has options?

[Asker]

He does, so that means im not important to him?

[ChicoFromThe305]

I can't speak for him but it's possible he's still deciding who or something

[Anonymous]

Because he has self respect and wants to know whether you are serious about him?

[Asker]

Bullshit

[Opinion Owner]

You asked the question and I gave you my honest answer. Women like you still make assumptions based on outdated and sexist assumptions. Just sayin.

Bet hey, you've got nothing to lose by making bad assumptions, right?

[Asker]

I honestly try not to but what guy wouldn't go after a girl he wants and respects. That guy you described to me is playing games

[Opinion Owner]

So, you expect a guy to go after you but you are not willing to go after him? Sounds entitled and self-important if you ask me.

I don't "go after" women who don't show interest and effort.

[Asker]

Im currently going after a man and he's been leaving me on seen. What's the point of doing that? Maybe the guy I like doesn't actually want me...

[Opinion Owner]

You're currently going after him? How so, exactly?

[Asker]

Im reaching out to him on his dms... he just views my messages and doesn't interact. Im trying to show interest.
Now I guess I see how this can play out. I once went after and chased my ex. He did a lot of cheating

[Danny_dan92]

Because… he doesn’t want you

[thestyx]

Just let him go, don’t make the first move