Should I end my friends with benefits situation?

[Anonymous]

Don’t know if this is the right place to post.

So I meet a guy and we started hooking up whenever we can. We tried his place but he has roommates and it’s awkward. My place was fine but my dog doesn’t like him 🤣. So we get a hotel like Dayuse or resort pass and get a room for a couple hours 2 times a month since August. The thing is I feel I am not getting the benefits part fulfilled. He has a very slow recovery period and in 7 hours we might have sex twice but usually just once. I don’t mind cuddling and making out in between but honestly been feeling unfulfilled and he has notice. He asked for me to stay over last time but the main reason I said no was because I don’t want to be sexually unfulfilled like always. How do I tell him without being rude that this arraignment is not working for me.

[egan3141]

1) Have you talked to him about doing things differently, focusing on you first (without his penis), trying toys, or anything so you can be fulfilled?
2) If by rude, you mean not hurting his feelings, no. There is no way to tell a guy "you aren't satisfying me" without his feelings being hurt. It doesn't matter what the situation/topic is, if a human is told "you good enough", it will "hurt" them.
3) I see 2 ways to end it. A) Include mostly truth and say something like "this is just too much work for not enough reward", B) combine 1 and 2. Bring up the idea of him putting more time into you or using toys or whatever, and if he won't, use that as the excuse to leave.

If he isn't willing to do more than just stick it in you, you probably should end it.

[egan3141]

dangit, didn't fix something during edit: "you aren't good enough"

[ChicoFromThe305]

Just tell him you don't want to have this friends with benefits anymore and that you've want to explore options or whatno, id assume he would understand if he's really on some friends with benefits shit

[Anonymous]

We always had ours so we could come and go as we please and there was no ending. When I got a boyfriend I just stopped being available and that was that. If I didn't have a boyfriend I could text a friends with benefits and if he was interested and available we could pick up right there. Anything else made it more than friends with benefits, which we didn't want.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Id just lie and say you are looking for more now and would like to end the arrangement

[bowenw]

Be honest with him. Suggest he try taking Viagra or Cialis to make for a better experience, or keep him from climaxing until you are satisfied.

[spartan55]

Maybe he doesn't want seconds because you aren't that good.