Guys, He says he wants casual but when I am ‘casual’ he pulls away? Why?

[Mjohnsoniscool15644]

So I F/26 was talking to this guy M/23 and we met on a dating app. I matched with him and eventually we text. He tells me he's looking for casual. He asks me if I knew what 'casual' meant and I said basically sex. He said yeah and then he gives me his # and we text. We've texted nearly everyday for a couple months, we met a good amount of times but I am trying to treat it as casual. So I'm not texting as much or l'm pulling back from texting but when I do that he starts to double or triple text. He would check on me. Whatever. But I feel like if it's casual, l don't have to text back all the time. Anyways, I don't keep the text going for day but I eventually pop in and tell him that I would like to have sex. His texting changes but then he calls and we meet up. We don't text for a day but he texts saying he likes having sex with me. I text him confirming I like it too. He doesn't text back. It's been over 2 weeks, and haven’t heard from him. but I made it clear that I like having sex with him. I'm confused bc he said he wanted 'casual' as in having sex. I keep it purely that. Mind you we both have other options but if it's casual sex then we can have sex with whoever. I don't know I'm confused. It seems like he's not being honest with what he wants. Also we first met in late September. What do you think this means?

[Hardon-Collider]

He craved having sex with you, the craving was thoroughly satisfied and he no longer needs you. Simple.

P. s. and before anyone misinterprets this, it does not mean you should withhold sex from people to ensure that they marry you. Doing so will prolong the craving time, and eventually the craving subsides and you'll still end up in even more regret. Just don't build relationships on cravings. ㅤ

[RHK36]

Sounds like he probably gets attached. You're a little attached because you care about him and what he's thinking. Just drop him and find someone else that is actually wanting casual

[bowenw]

It sounds like he is busy with other women.

[Mjohnsoniscool15644]

Yeah I think so too. I have a question, if someone is casual wouldn’t they want to keep the options they have?

[bowenw]

Everyone is different, but I would think he would want to keep the options he has open. If he is catching feelings for someone else, that could be why he has disappeared.

[Mjohnsoniscool15644]

Yeah I could see that although he said he was purely casual. There were times I didn’t text him for days or almost a week. He would triple or double. Or times where he called and I wouldn’t answer. So yeah

[MasterKS]

lack of confidence.