Me and this guy (we're coworkers but we're both getting different jobs soon) agreed to be casual. Now in his words, he said "I'm just looking for something casual, maybe long-term if necessary in the future". I don't really care, I'm down for fun or long-term. So I thought we were on the same page.
Plus, he went drinking with another woman and he told me "it wasn't a serious date". So I assumed hey, he's casual and meeting others too. No problem. He said he's bouncing around.
But I realized his actions never line up with his words. Usually players say I love you but their actions are the opposite. This guy? He claims he just wants casual, but he's all over me and doing these "affectionate" things. In fact, the other day he said he felt guilty because I'm younger than him. So I tried asking him if he's sure he's comfortable with this situationship. He then changed his answer and said he doesn't feel guilty.
We've barely been doing much besides joking around, talking, or flirting (mostly me, he doesn't seem to be good at it). We do talk about our lives a bit and our hobbies. I give him hugs every so often. I assume he's actually inexperienced. Why? Just from a hug, his ears were bright red. He even started asking me for hugs from them on.
My issue is: out of nowhere the guy was telling me that he feels guilty, that "we can take it slow", and he seems extremely confused right now.
He isn't really good at communicating. I'm not sure why he wants to take it slow when things were going pretty normally/rather slow. I thought that he just wanted to have fun, so I'm not sure why he's hesitating?
