Am I oversensitive? Is my stance wrong?

[Anonymous]

So, for example, I experience negging from men a lot. Even though I’m pretty - of course, not Megan Fox-level, but attractive. Personally, I don’t even care much about looks, I usually just walk around in sweatpants. But I’m not gonna lie, it’s definitely better not to hear those comments - like I didn’t hear them when I had that Instagram shape. I feel like I gotta be a step ahead, cause they keep coming for me. Like if I lived in a city full of pickpocketers, Id make sure to keep a wallet extra close and be extra vigilant.

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6 mo

Basically, what's the middle ground - playing the game to avoid criticism or just letting it roll off my back?

[Nikki1989]

Don't listen to those men.

Have you ever noticed the loudest men are usually the most clueless?

[Anonymous]

Care about only what those close you think. Don't date manipulative men.

[Asker]

Correct. But the crux was I like being hot, but I dont like being reduced to that or being required of being that or being treated like trash if I start anyhow deviating from that standard.

[Opinion Owner]

You're still caring what others think. People will judge you no matter what, so why care?

[Abbycado]

Dress the way you want to be perceived.

[Asker]

I am not going to lie my favorite way has so far been to be that IG baddie and then I just shut them up. I am personally not into status and all of that AT ALL, but I am being constantly provoked.

[Abbycado]

Provoked? In what way?