Is this wrong or am I overreacting?

[lexih_919]

So my boyfriend is talking to other girls on Snapchat that are 14-16 and calling them cute and beautiful and continues to talk to them and he’s over the age of 18. Is this wrong bc I felt disgusted but I don't know if I’m overreacting.

It’s wrong

Overreacting

Updates

+1 y

Also we been in a relationship for four years

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

What he is doing is neither good nor bad, it's your thinking that makes it so. @lexih_919

This guy isn't what you want so you can move on but guys mature a lot slower so what he is going through is an identity issue. He isn't a pedo. A pedo is someone who like pre-puberty humans. If a man tells you he isn't physically attracted to some womanly looking 17 year old he is lying and they will die with the lie every time. They are disgusted with the thought which makes them think they aren't attracted. Same with their sisters. But a hot female is a hot female lets be real here. Same goes for 15 and 16 and even 14 in some cases. People hit puberty at didn't ages. By 17 people usually hit some bit of puberty at least. Do you look all that different from when you were 17? or even 16? besides style choices? Probably not.

@lexih_919
The answer is this: take the time to write down what you want in life. Clearly you dont know because if you did you wouldn't be with him or you'd already have methods by which you guys operate and handle issues.
Figure out the life you want and the guy that naturally fits in that life. Then go to him with it and if he has no personal desire of molding himself into that guy let him go live the life he wants. If he does want to be that guy you describe then start working together everyday to be the people you need to be to fulfill that dream vision. And do it has a team. Don't turn on each other. Have weekly meetings about successes and concerns. Don't leave your relationship up to chance like most people because you're too afraid to do the work. Lastly, stop listening to a-holes like me on the net. Shut your mind to everything that isn't what you want.

[PJH359]

Extremely wrong sweetie…that is a no brainer. Not only is it extremely inappropriate but borderline illegal. It also puzzles me why any man who would possible have the privilege of being with such a beautiful girl as yourself would even consider casting his eye elsewhere. He must not be very smart…and that tree he’s barking up, will come back to haunt him in a big kind of way. If that happens, you don’t want to be anywhere near him or associated with him. You can do much better ma’am…go find him. It won’t take long. Wishing you the best

[Silvermantis]

Well considering that those are literally children, yes that is very wrong.

[Finchie40]

Ummm you need to dump his ass , he doesn’t value you and respect you , you are just a convenience to him so you are best to kick his ass to the curb ASAP , value yourself worth and realize you deserve someone that is going to stand by your side and want you the same way they want to be wanted , not use you for a convenience, Kick his ass to the curb and don’t look back

[Crafteroon]

The fact that you said he's "over the age of eighteen" instead of his actual age tells me how you really feel about it. Why you're still calling him your boyfriend is the part that baffles me.

[Nadim171]

They're not children, there is nothing illegal in that, but you're in a relationship, so it's wrong for that reason, not the other reason.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your wasting your time with a Jerk.

[crossdressingrihno]

In 18-year-old dating a 14-year-old is just wrong

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

is it? or do you just think that?

[crossdressingrihno]

Yeah it’s wrong

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

So a 15 or 16 year old with a 18 year old is right? You have no truly justifiable evidence that supports your claim because none exist. This is just the thinking of our society. Our thinking and our laws makes it wrong but in actuality it is nether wrong nor right.

Not to mention the hypocrisy seeing that so many women like and date older males. And the scary thing is once this girl is 16... if she is in Hawaii or North Carolina for example she can now date/sex a 18 year old and it is very legal. Because 2 years past it is okay now though lol.

I don't disagree with the laws however I realize they are just based on thinking not anything real. There is not biological note that says it is morally wrong or functionally wrong. In fact our biology isn't perfect anyway. I don't disagree or agree with you im just saying you know you're not actually factual in terms of nature.

[crossdressingrihno]

OK here is why pedophilia is bad since you apparently need me to spell it out for you

#1 a child or even a teenager has not mentally developed enough to raise a child and also their bodies are not developed enough to go through a pregnancy safely

#2 a child or teenager is not fully mature and thus is more susceptible to manipulation by a someone who is more developed (like an adult)

#3 the likely hood of a teenager regretting a sexual relationship with and adult is supper high even among boys and this can lead to depression or even suicide

#4 because they haven’t fully developed physically or mentally they are not at their full potential and sexual relationships with adults can severely hamper their development we have seen this happen many times

#5 I’ve had friends who were victims to that kind of manipulation and have seen the effects first hand

You may say I don’t know what im talking about and that I don’t understand what im saying and that i have no proof but when i was 14 years old their was an 18 year old woman who had attempted to have “relations” with me and I’ve had friends with similar or even worse horror stories involving pedophiles

[crossdressingrihno]

We’ve seen the effects these kinds of things have and I’ve seen a lot of bad come out of it but NOTHING good

100 people eat a grey mushroom with yellow dots and 99 of them die then it’s safe to say that mushroom probably Isn’t good for you

[dustybiker]

I’m against endangering any child.

[Spotifyplaylist]

Wtf? No that's a fucking problem.

[Danny_dan92]

You’re dating a pedophile

[TallAnon]

First of all, pedo alert, secondly, cheating

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

A pedo is someone who likes before-puberty humans.

[TallAnon]

If you need to make excuses for pedos, you need to start thinking about yourself

[Xtendable]

You’re right to be concerned

[Anonymous]

He's pedofil